I never gave much thought to having children during my own childhood. I was pretty sure that I would become a mother someday, but that was never my goal. My list of life goals while I was in high school went something like this:
- Finish undergraduate and graduate school.
- Have an amazing career making loads of money.
- Buy a really nice house.
- Buy a really nice car.
- Marry a handsome man.
- All the while staying slim, tan, and just all around fabulous.
Well, these plans were derailed when I discovered that at 19 I was expecting a baby. Then, the strangest thing happened. I also discovered that being a mother was something much bigger than myself. Something so grand, amazing, and wonderful I could barely believe it.
Why hadn’t anyone told me!? Sure, my mother had taught preschool for quite some time, and she spoke of how sweet little children are. All the while however, my parents and the rest of the world said that I needed to complete my above mentioned list before considering children. If I had known how wonderful motherhood was prior to having children, becoming a mother would be “the list.” That would be all. If I never accomplished anything else in my life, I’d know that I had accomplished enough.
So why does the world tell us this? Why do we only desire two, maybe three children after completing other goals we have set for ourselves?
We live in a world where selfishness abounds. Everyone wants the nicest house, newest car, and coolest things. We are afraid that children might drain our worldly means from us, and then we would miss out. This way of thinking turns children into a burden.
When we use birth control to limit our family size for the sake of obtaining worldly goods, we are turning children into a burden. When we put children at the end of our life list, we are turning them into a burden. The Word of God says that children are a blessing however.
Don’t you see that children are God’s best gift? The fruit of the womb His generous legacy?
Psalm 127:3 (The Message Bible)
The KJV states it this way:
Lo, children are an heritage from the LORD, and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
God’s ways are not our ways. Sometimes when we follow the Lord, it doesn’t make any sense to our human minds. I’ve heard many times that “God has given us a brain to think.” That decisions regarding children are ours to make and not God’s. What does the Bible say about this?
Trust in the LORD with all your heart; and lean not unto your own understanding.
Our “understanding” never should take precedence over the word of God. If we think we have heard directly from the Lord, and those thoughts contradict scripture, than those thoughts are not from God.
When we have children, we are bring eternal souls into the world. Let me say that again. Eternal souls. These sweet children will be here forevermore, unlike our homes and other “stuff.” But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust does corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal. Matthew 6:20. When we have children, we are thinking of eternity, instead of our own worldly comfort. For this we will be blessed.
God loves us. He will not give us more than we can handle. He cares so deeply for us, we should know that we can always count on Him, and we need not worry about our earthly comforts.
“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. …
Matthew 6:25-34 ESV
Our time on this earth is fleeting. The Bible says it is but a vapor! (James 4:14) One day in eternity we will look back, and this life of ours on Earth will seem extremely short. All of our earthly items will be long gone, and quite possibly beyond our memory. Having children isn’t that way at all, it is actually quite the opposite. If we raise our children in God’s ways and in His truth, the possibility of spending eternity with them is great. How wonderful a thought!
*I know that I am not a doctor, and this advice is in no way to contradict doctor’s orders. I’m just sharing what God has laid on my heart to share. Thank you for being kind.*
Also, do you have an amazing birth, pregnancy, or adoption story to share? A story where the hand of God was mightily on you and your baby? I am looking to begin featuring these types of stories on my blog on a regular basis! If you have a story, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.