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Daughters and the Disney Channel

A few years back our family made the decision to stop watching the Disney Channel.   We do allow our youngest children to watch Disney Junior, which includes Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Jake and the Neverland Pirates, etc.  The actual Disney Channel shows are off limits however.  Why in the world do we have this rule? you might ask.

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Our oldest two daughters used to love Hannah Montana.  I’m talking about really love her.  We watched the shows, bought the paraphernalia, and sung along with her CDs in our van.  They thought she was sooooo cool, and wanted to emulate her.  I thought this was simply adorable.  I actually encouraged it.

caabtybee*Our kiddos were so excited to be vacationing on Tybee Island at the same time Miley was filming The Last Song.  They even watched the beach carnival filming!  Please note that this photo was taken prior to my modesty conviction.*

Then as Miss Miley grew older, things started to change.  Miley did not want to be associated with Hannah Montana as a young adult any longer.  My girls still very much associated Miley with Hannah however.  She began making headlines in a not-so-positive light.  I began to actually hide Miley news from my girls, since the news was so disturbing!

Fast forward to present day.  My husband was looking at Youtube, and what do you know?  Miley’s new music video was the #1 watched video.  He thought, “Hmm, I wonder what Miley is up to?”  He then watched it and shared it with me behind closed doors.  I’m sharing it with you now for informational purposes only, and I would definitely not watch it with your children present.

So this is the one and the same Hannah Montana that only a few years ago my daughters were so enthralled with.  It literally makes me sick to my stomach.

It was during Miley’s transition into “adulthood” that I really began to question the television that my girls were watching.  Consuming might be a better word.  Eyes are the window to the soul.  Is the television we’ve placed in our house edifying or destructive?  Demi Lovato of Camp Rock and Sonny with a Chance fame was also making headlines for “cutting” herself during this time period.  Lovely.  How was I supposed to explain this to my daughters?

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I really cried out to God.  I sought His Word.  This is what I found.

Whether therefore you eat, or drink, or whatsoever you do, do all to the glory of God.

1 Corinthians 10:31

And whatsoever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father by him.

Colossians 3:17

Was allowing my young daughters to watch television which included girls wearing immodest clothing, having boyfriends too young, talking back to parents, etc. glorifying God?  Was allowing my girls to watch these immoral stars glorifying to God?  That would be a loud and resounding NO.   I should have been placing godly examples before their eyes!

But I’ve allowed these shows into our living room for years.  How could I take them away?

I had a heart to heart with my girls. They somewhat understood, but at the same time were a tad bit resentful.  At the time my ten year old daughter was using the word “stupid” a bit too much for my liking as well.  She was using the word to describe  her siblings’ actions and possessions which is unacceptable.  So we made a deal.  A few of the shows, such as Hannah Montana and Sonny with a Chance were off limits.  I allowed the other shows, but if “stupid” was used during the show it needed to be turned off.  Every single Disney Channel show was turned off during the following three weeks because of the word “stupid.”  Talk about confirmation!  I knew right then and there that these shows were in no way edifying, and my girls knew it too.

As a whole we only watch documentaries, the news, and older television shows such as I Love Lucy and the Andy Griffith Show now.  My little ones still watch educational cartoons.  It has been a huge adjustment, but so worth it for our family.  We are at the moment contemplating getting rid of television altogether and relying solely on DVDs.

I wrote this in relation to daughters, but it can be applied to our sons as well if they have a problem with revering a television personality.  I honestly have no idea what the new “fad” television shows are, but please listen to a mom whose been there.  Fame usually will pull these stars under, and our daughters are watching.

Be blessed!

~Nicole

 

 

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55 thoughts on “Daughters and the Disney Channel

  1. We don’t have cable, never have and I love it! We have Netflix and Amazon Prime and that’s worked out really well. The kids mostly watch DVD’s but I’ve had issues with a lot of them. The movie Cars, for example, someone says “sexy” in it. That’s not what I want my 3 year old hearing. I took Bugs Bunny away because they said stupid a little too much and then he would start repeating it. It’s hard to know where to draw the line, The Disney version of Robin Hood, Robin Hood and Little John dress up like women, which my son noticed and a lot of the other ones are on the line of inappropriate also. Words like idiot are in almost all of them.

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    1. Unfortunately we live in the boonies and cannot get Netflix. Our internet access is solely through a wifi hotspot that has a limited amount of space.

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      1. We also have wifi, so we rent dvds from netflix thru the mail. There is a large of selection of old shows and movies, children and family movies. This works really well for us, we don’t have tv and can be totally selective about what our kids watch. It also limits the amount of movies we watch because we have to wait for them to come in the mail. hope this helps! Be encouraged that you are not alone in trying to raise Godly children.
        Trisha http://www.etsy.com/shop/ReDreamJean

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      2. Netflix has a DVD only plan. It is so worth it!! We are a DVD only family now since Feb 2013 and love it. I stumble across your blog yesterday and I can’t get enough of it. It sounds like you and I have experienced these convictions at the some what of the same pace. Your whole life becomes better when you let God have total control in it.

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  2. I have same the issue with my son watching Disney in general. The commercials that are aired between shows are not something I wish him to see. I limit him to only a few shows on Disney Jr., and Nick Jr. PBS Kids is the best by far and is educational.

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  3. I clicked over from Raising Arrows because your post caught my eye. I agree everything that you said. We came to the same conclusion several years ago when my oldest was a toddler. We were warned about the trickle down effect and we are so glad we took that advice. You’re definitely making the right choice!

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  4. Thank you so much for this educating post! We don’t watch TV at our house – we have it, but don’t watch it other than Netflix and DVDs every once in a while. It is so sad to see most of the younger stars going the route like Miley has (Britney would be another unfortunate example).

    My husband and I have a rule in our house – no branding of our kids … no mainstream TV, no Cars Sippie Cups, no Winnie Baby items, except what was given to us when she was born, and even then we limit the use of these items. I think we have a Winnie walker and it is a big ticket item, so we do use it because of the money that would be involved having to replace it. Even though she is still “just a Baby“, we decided to start early on it.

    Thanks for your post, I feel it is very important to limit the exposure of our children to mainstream media and I am saddened to see that Disney has allowed for showes of backtalking teenagers dressed in too short clothing to be aired. It may be a challenge on them at the moment, but one day, your children will thank you for it big time! 😉

    We serve an amazing God!

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    1. I think you’ve brought up another good point. Everything for kids is related to tv or movie characters. I try to greatly limit the amount of character products that come into our home. When I have bought cups with characters on them, for example, it seems to open a door to the kids wanting everything the stores sell with those characters on them. I’m sure the companies know they are encouraging materialism as I’ve seen documentaries where they discuss how important kids are now as “consumers.” It’s pretty disgusting the way they discussed how they openly try to get kids to manipulate their parents and have the children make the purchasing decisions! So no comforters with Disney characters. There don’t seem to be a lot of other choices for kids in the bedding area, but I would rather have a “plain” set. Fortunately my daughter was too young during the Hannah Montana craze, although I had a friend whose daughters had everything Hannah Montana. I kind of wondered if they would regret it because as far as Miley Cyrus changing, I saw that one coming. It seems to happen with most, if not all, the child stars these days. It just comes down to we have to guard against our kids idolizing celebrities of any age, and try to teach them to worship the only one who is deserving of adoration, and that is the Lord.

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  5. WOW!! That video is gross! Is Miley bisexual now or what?! While we never got into Hannah Montana, my son (now 11yrs old) used to like the show “I Carly”. It was kind of cute when the characters were younger but as they got older they got more obnoxious and disrespectful with each other and they had episodes where they were making fun of a boy who didn’t have a girlfriend and hadn’t kissed a girl yet! (and they were barely teenagers!) Needless to say, he hasn’t been allowed to watch that show anymore. Since he is getting older it’s harder to find stuff that is appropriate for him to watch. A lot of the stuff on Nickelodeon and Disney XD is garbage: kids being disrespectful to each other and especially to adults… and the father figure is usually not there or is a bumbling idiot! My other two kids are girls, ages 3 & 4 and they love Disney Jr and Nick Jr but I have to monitor some of that too…there have been episodes of Dora or Sophia the First that I’ve turned off because there is a lot of “magic” and casting spells and sorcery and stuff like that! Anyways, I’m glad that I found your blog…it’s very encouraging to me!!!

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    1. Thank you for the kind words! I honestly have no idea what has happened to Miley, but it is so sad to me. I have turned off Sofia too from time to time. Thankfully my oldest children are happy watching Way of the Master, 19 Kids and Counting, and the like. I have a ton of acceptable stuff on our DVR. Thanks for sharing!

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  6. Aw, your kids in the top pic are precious and very modest. (I say this as one who was raised in a “dresses only” house. 🙂 )

    Boy, I do hate the Disney “preteen” shows. I have been wrestling through this one with my own preteen. I have not sat down and watched as many with her as I should, but I have been right on the edge of shutting them all down for some of the reasons you mentioned. Another of my main reasons is that it hurts my heart for little girls to get the idea that they “should” look like these tiny, perfectly dressed and made up actresses. Adults fall prey to the same thinking (that we should look like celebs) but our daughters are so much more vulnerable. I so hear what you are saying!

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    1. Thank you for the kind words! It’s funny that the grass is always seems greener on the other side. I wish I was raised in a home where dresses were worn. 🙂 The above photo doesn’t represent our current modesty standards well. When we do wear shorts they are much longer and our tops offer more coverage as well. Thank you for sharing! Blessings to you!

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  7. I am too old to have been into Miley Cyrus when she was Hannah Montana but I had a vague idea of who she was. The other day I came across the above video of her on youtube and thought, wow she looks different and watched. I’m sorry I did! I was JUST telling my husband how I’m thinking about not raising her watching any disney stuff. I grew up with the cartoon movies and I’ve watched clips on youtube for nostalgia’s sake and can’t believe how gross some of it is (Ursula in Little Mermaid?!?!). Even though when I was young I didn’t fully grasp what was being told to me, I realize now that much of it did form my worldview to some degree.

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    1. *her* meaning my 2 year old daughter – sorry! Also, to add, Disney cartoons shaped how I saw the world because like any kid I loved watching the videos over and over and over again. One time seeing it probably wouldn’t have hurt me, but I got ’em memorized.

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    2. Thanks for sharing Sarah! We still own several Disney cartoon movies, and as a whole, we like them. I just threw away The Princess and the Frog about 6 months ago however, because I became really convicted about the voodoo in the film. We definitely try to stay away from themes of magic, and any immorality whatsoever.

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      1. Hi NIcole,

        I really just started reading your blog, and LOVED it, but (totally) out of curiosity (and just to be clear this is by far not meant an an offense, interrogation, or questioning of your authority over your kids!) what’s wrong with magic? I let my kids read and watch whatever they want as long as it’s approved by us and have let them read magic, provided it has no themes such as homosexuality, pro choice, evolution, sexual matters, swearing, or anything immoral in general. More on topic, I’ve totally banned Disney and most channels, and my kids have been fine without it. I do let them watch (approved) episodes of “The Cosby Show”, “Full House” and other oldies but goldies. 😀 The unfortunate part about Demi Lavato is that she was pressured by the media who told her that she was fat, she was ugly, she was worthless; the bullying grew on her, and now her situation has been getting better. Honestly, all these stars have problems. But one time, on TV, I was watching something and a man said, you can’t judge people, only their actions. Though all their actions are bad, those young girls have underlying emotional issues that they’re trying to get out by “experimenting,” so it is wrong to judge them, particularly if they’r struggling with depression. And sadly, all these shows are saying 11 year olds must have their first kiss, you should have premarital sex, its okay to sleep with strange men, people do this all the time, all of this is part of life, women should exploit themselves because it’s okay to do so etc… I have a strict “no dating till college rule” for my children, just because I don’t want to risk anything for their own good! Can you please explain to me though ? I’m just slightly confused! Should magic be off limits for what they read or watch?

        Thanks for reading so much of this message!

        Anna

        P.S. If you’ve ever tried Jonathan Park books, they’re great, AND are Bibilically correct! Yay!

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      2. Hi Anna! I’m so sorry I’m just now getting back to you, it has been a crazy week over here. 🙂 It is a confusing topic. There are some verses in the Bible about avoiding sorcerers and magic. We do watch some Disney (Mickey Mouse Clubhouse) but even that has some magic themes. For our family (and this is subjective) at this time we opt to stay away from most magic themes which are about sorcery or black magic. We do not watch say, The Princess and the Frog (voo doo) or Sorcecer Mickey cartoons. We do watch Cinderella (fairy Godmother, which is magic too if you really think about it.) It is a confusing topic to me as well. Here are a few Bible verses concerning the topic:

        But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.” Revelation 21:8

        And a number of those who had practiced magic arts brought their books together and burned them in the sight of all. And they counted the value of them and found it came to fifty thousand pieces of silver. Acts 19:19

        There shall not be found among you anyone who burns his son or his daughter as an offering, anyone who practices divination or tells fortunes or interprets omens, or a sorcerer or a charmer or a medium or a necromancer or one who inquires of the dead, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord. And because of these abominations the Lord your God is driving them out before you. Deuteronomy 18:10-12

        Again, I’m sorry for the late reply. Blessings to you!

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      3. Don’t worry about the late reply! I hardly get time to check my stuff anyhow! 😀

        This stuff finally makes sense! It’s just slightly confusing what “counts” as magic and what doesn’t. We set the boundary at fairytales and literary classics! 😀

        Take care

        Anne

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  8. That video is so awful. I had to shut it off because it was so weird. That’s got to mess with people’s heads. Very disturbing, and she used to be so pretty.

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  9. We, too, are a Disney-free household. Except we are completely Disney-free. Your example of Miley Cyrus is just the tIP of the iceberg. Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, Lindsay Lohan, that gal from High School Musical…and so many more…all started as ‘wholesome’ young girls in Disney shows and movies, and without fail, all followed the same path of degradation physically, spiritually and mentally. This is what Disney does to girls, and what Disney wants to do to your daughters. And they want your sons to accept this as normal. Even ‘harmless’ Disney cartoons are loaded with subliminal messages about sex…do some research. Disney is a major player in a systematic sexualisation of children aimed at the breaking down of the family unit. The religious fervor with which many bloggers (and indeed many Christian bloggers) worship the whole Disney empire perturbs me a great deal. There is an enemy who comes as an angel of light, but is really a prowling lion ready to devour our children, and many parents are simply opening the door and welcoming him into their homes. I won’t even get started on good old Walt himself. That’s fodder for another time, but I’ve found that most Americans have a ‘everybody’s favourite uncle’ kind of picture…he was not a good or kind man.

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  10. Very nicely said, Nicole. Reading your post, this scripture came to mind:

    “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”
    Philippians 4:8

    (stopping over from Deep Roots at Home today)

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    1. I love this verse. I have been planning on typing it out and hanging it in a nice picture frame next to the television for awhile now.

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  11. I came over from Women Living Well Link up… THANK YOU so much for posting about this! We have a 11 month old daughter and just got rid of our tv dish. Very rarely are there any shows that are worth watching anymore. And all the old, good shows are on dvd so we couldn’t justify the cost.

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  12. Nicole, Thank you for sharing this. We decided to get rid of cable 5 years ago when my son was born. Although the initial decision was for financial reasons at the time, it has been the BEST decision we have EVER made. I can see a change in my daughter’s attitude (she’s 8 now) when she’s watched one of those shows at a friend’s house. We’ve tried to explain that’s why we don’t watch them. My kids have never been allowed to watch Sponge Bob for the same reason…his attitude, rudeness, etc. We’ve taken some flak from friends (and relatives from it), but we can see a HUGE difference in our children when they are (on occasion) allowed to watch something at someone else’s house. That only confirms our decision.

    Popping over from the Family Fun Friday link-up! Glad to “meet” you!

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  13. Amen! and Amen! Hannah Montana was the only Disney show I left my kids watch and, while it still has somewhat good morals and lessons about family relationships, there is also much to be disturbed about–including not only where Miley is now, but also the music that was promoted on the show–it gave my kids a taste for rock music, which is not a good thing.

    At any rate, a few years later, Good Luck Charlie came on and my girls talked me into letting them watch it because they just “love babies”– for a month or two. And then I happened to sit down and watch it. I was HORRIFIED at the terrible example of marriage it portrayed — always making Dad look stupid and Mom as selfish and domineering. I finally said no more.

    My kids are outgrowing Disney Channel now, but one thing I have learned –I have never been sorry for the things I have not allowed, but often been sorry for the things I have. I commend you for standing up for what’s right in a world of entertainment that is so wrong 🙂 Thanks for a great post! It can really be applied to all of our entertainment choices in my opinion.

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    1. Thank you so much for the kind words. Good Luck Charlie was the last Disney Channel show I allowed my children to watch too. 🙂

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  14. We actually chose not to have a TV at all after our first child was born. It has been five years now and we don’t miss it at all! Our kids only see movies that we have watched ahead of time and have approved. I love it that my kids spend very little time watching things and so much time using their imagination!

    It is hard to know what to do when we are at someone else’s house (like grandma’s!) and their TV is on. I usually ask if we could turn it off… or I bring along a movie that I offer to share if they want to watch something. We also have had to limit where we go out to eat because so many restaurants show things that we don’t want our kids watching. Do you have any thoughts on how to handle these situations?

    (I found you through Raising Homemakers)

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    1. It sounds like you are doing a very good job. We too try to limit our eating out experiences to positive ones. We stay away from “bar and grills” and frequent small hometown Restrurants more frequently. We rarely go out to eat as a family anyhow since it is expensive!

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  15. Everything you said is true. The Disney channel is full of subliminal messages and if you look into the lives of all of these youngsters you will see that they appear to start out as innocent kids and they are only being used as Satan’s tools to lure our young people into a whole different way of living that is totally against our Biblical foundations laid out by our Lord Jesus Christ. We have not had cable in our home for at least 3 years. We subscibe to Netflix because they do have a great deal of Christian/Biblical based movies that the cable television does not air. But we still choose the shows that our children will watch. We have became the enemies of our 15 and 13 year old children as it appears in the natural but we know that the decision that we have made concerning television is all to the glory of God. We will have to answer to the Lord one day for how we raised them. Satan will try to disguise himself as an angel of light even if it means using kids who we see to be innocent to get the job done. We are definitely in a spiritual battle for the souls of our young people. We have to fight the fight of faith and cast out the spirits of darkness that are oppressing and influencing, and possessing some of our young people.

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  16. I have found that as my children get older(they are 15 and 11), I would rather them watch “Good Luck, Charlie” over the shows kids their ages are watching. Most kids in my sons class were watching “Big Bang Theory” and (believe it or not) Jersey Shore. It actually sickens me to think there are parents who allow their small children to watch such filth, and then wonder why their kids are so disrespectful and rebellious.

    You are honouring God and your children will be better for it.

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    1. Thank you for the kind words! Even though it’s tough, we draw the line with any shows that do not line up with God’s word. It is so easy to think, “At least my children aren’t watching that show!” while allowing others that are not quite as bad. I have been guilty of that in the past for sure! 🙂

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  17. That music video was disturbing. Really disturbing. What the heck happened to Miley? My girls are 12, 7, and 3. While the youngest has never even seen Hannah Montana and my middle girl wasn’t really into it as she was too young at the time, my oldest was really into it; the tv show, the cds, the movies, the merchandise, etc, etc. I would be horrified if my almost 13 year old were to watch this video and know what Miley’s getting up to now. I would love to take away the cable, but my youngest really likes shows like Dora, Jake, Sophia, Max and Ruby, to name but a few. I have to say I love those shows too because they’re so educational. It’s the shows geared toward the older children that I could live without. But how do you forbid your older children from watching tv when you let the younger ones still watch? I suppose the simplest answer is to take cable away completely and then rely on channels like PBS and videos from the library that have been vetted already. My older girls go to public school and they take the bus every day so I suppose I can’t completely keep them from hearing things about what’s going on in the world of music, tv, and movies, but keeping it out of my house is at least a baby step to healing their hearts, minds, and souls from what they’ve consumed and ingested so far. Thank you for your post. I came to you via Women Living Well.

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    1. Thanks for sharing Samantha. I have the same scenario going on over here. I’ve just let the older kids know that they aren’t the only ones “not allowed” to watch immoral shows. Myself and my husband are not allowed either! By holding ourselves to the same standard my children are much more understanding.

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  18. That music video was just awful!! Even the lyrics were in the gutter. 😦 Miley was a big thing when I was about 17 years old and I oftentimes enjoyed watching them later when they came out on DVD or on YouTube. It’s so sad to see so much potential go down the drain.

    My family didn’t have cable or Netflix or anything of the sort ever since I was about eight or nine. I’m married now and my husband never had anything other than movies played on his family tv either. We’ve both mutually understood that cable is pretty much just a waste of money especially since just about everything can be found in the library if you’re willing to wait a few months for the show to come out on DVD.

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  19. Oh.my.word. That video is appalling. It’s certainly the most pornographic thing I’ve ever seen without actual nudity. Unreal. Now I understand why, when Miley’s name came up the other day, my teens got “ewww” totally disgusted looks on their faces. I was completely unaware how far she had fallen. It is just sickening and so, so sad. Definitely makes me more concerned about monitoring more. My youngest is 16, but I know that she has seen SO much more than I ever dreamed of at that age, and it makes me sad.

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  20. We cancelled our cable when my first daughter was born as part of an effort to save money so that I could be a stay at home mom. We had no idea how God would use that decision to work on our hearts about protecting our children (and ourselves) from exposure to mainstream media. My children do not know what TV commercials are. They don’t know any of the Disney celebrities or any of the Nickelodeon shows. Several months ago, I began to feel that God was working on us again, to clean up our household even further. After much prayer and discussion, my husband and I conducted a total purge of DVDs, books and music in order to get rid of anything that would embarrass us in front of Jesus. We walked through the house and imagined that if Jesus was walking with us, what things would we be embarrassed to have him see? All of that stuff got tossed (including some Disney cartoon classics). Then we put away our only TV set in the closet, where it has sat unused ever since. I hope that my husband will be ready to throw it out soon, too. Thank you for your post. I really connect with what you are saying.

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  21. I agree with you about what we allow our children and ourselves to consume. We have been without cable for almost 2 years now, and it really is a blessing. I have also found myself having to limit shows that I once thought was ok such as the Cosby Show. I realized that it really wasn’t as wholesome as I once thought it. Thanks for confirmation and for sharing your experiences.

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  22. Just saw your article at “Growing Home.” I am starting to have doubts about letting my daughter watch the Disney channel, because she seems to imitate the many “snooty” girl characters. Thank you for this article. It reaffirms my growing convictions.

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  23. This post was so awesome and right on! I am in such agreement with you and that video turned my stomach and made me even more aware of just what I try to shield my children from! Thank you so much for this!

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  24. Agreeing with lots of the comments and your post. It’s encouraging to see others take a stand even though it may not be popular. I am constantly re-evaluating TV for my kids and feeling it’s time to make more adjustments. We are pretty much DVD/Netflix only and rarely watch Disney Jr anymore. My son (almost 9) loves America’s Funniest Videos but lately I am hearing more *bleeping* of words and seeing some inappropriate stuff for his age (and my daughter’s age). This is a reminder that I need to talk with DH about our kids’ TV viewing.

    I recently let my 5yo DD watch Beauty and the Beast and for days she’s been walking around with her shirts/dresses pulled off her shoulders like Belle. . It doesn’t take much to make a strong impression on these little ones.

    I definitely agree with the comment left about branding of kids. We have allowed some items into the house and 1 or 2 bday parties with a character theme, but we usually try to steer clear of that stuff. My DD begged for Cinderella bedding for her birthday and we have just kept their bedding to plain colored quilts.

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  25. My sister and I were just talking about this week. I don’t have girls and my oldest is only 3 1/2…but we moderate really heavily what they watch (which is mainly limited to the videos or DVDs we already have). But, boy or boy, is Miley different than Hannah Montana!! That is SICK! It’s so sad that this what Disney stars think “transitioning to adulthood” means – so very, very sad! And this decision to shut Disney off is the best – I really hate those shows where kids are smart alecks, talk back to their parents…and all of the early romance really disturbs me. Where is a child’s innocence??? Even at 11, 12, 13, 14???? It’s sad that kids grow up so fast.

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  26. I have struggled with my 8 year old daughter watching the Disney channel while over at her grandparents home. They have a bedroom for the girls which has a television in it. While their teenage granddaughter is there she will go to that back bedroom and watch tv. My daughter started watching the Disney shows with her. First of all .. I do not like my daughter viewing a tv in a room by herself. We do not have televisions in our rooms. Secondly, I think that she is being robbed of her innocence too early by being exposed to some of the relationship scenarios in those shows. Not to mention I do detest how the parents are made out to be morons. I also dislike how they talk to one another. I see it rubbing off on my daughter. No more tv at Gran and Papas! Thank you for posting this article. It made me realize my concerns were valid and not just me being a prude!

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  27. We don’t have any television, only DVD’s and we don’t miss it. My husband and I haven’t had cable or the like since the beginning of our marriage. Even some of the PBS shows got disturbing, so we stopped those a few years ago. Been nothing but DVD’s since.

    Good for you for making the tough decision to do what’s best for your daughters. And thank you for sharing with others.

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  28. I remember when my son was an infant, one night I searched and searched for something, anything that was “decent” to watch while we nursed, tried to get to sleep, etc. in the middle of the night…and I ended up watching Hannah Montana. (Yes, I know, it’s pretty ridiculous that a grown woman was watching Hannah Montana, but I’m pretty picky about ratings and such and it’s just hard to find appropriate things on TV). Don’t judge…lol

    Anyway, I was having a conversation with a mom who didn’t allow her daughter to watch Hannah Montana. At the time (brand new mom!), I didn’t see what the big deal was. But then she started to share about the track record of disney stars to be just fine, and then after the little girls adore them and want to be them…they grow up and go wild. Being new to parenting and the disney channel, I hadn’t considered that, but now I’m seeing it happen and it’s so sad. Thanks for sharing.

    And now, having children, I’m more aware of the things on Disney shows that aren’t really appropriate for them anyway…we do some disney, jr. and some nick, jr.

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  29. I, too, fell for the Disney channel for my children…thinking “It’s Disney…it can’t be ‘bad’, can it?” Until the day my 7 yr old (who was 6 at the time) started dressing like her role models on Disney! When I discussed modesty with her and told her that those clothes just weren’t appropriate for a child – or ANYONE who is a follower of God. I have met with MAJOR resentment from all my children at this point. But I have stood firm. Garbage in, garbage out…as the saying goes. It wasn’t even until AFTER we stopped watching the Disney channel that I realized that some of the behaviors & words coming from my children were taught to them ON Disney shows.

    Unfortunately Disney is supposed to be about kids & family and too often as parents we fail to see the land mines until they have exploded! I have recently begun to pressure our local cable network to start carrying TBN. They still haven’t agreed but it is on every Saturday morning/early afternoon so they do get to see a little bit of it. I have also started looking into changing from our cable provider to Sky Angel because they carry so many of the older shows that actually DO teach our childen Godly values. My Beloved is the hold out because he enjoys watching so many shows that are only on our cable network…it makes it that much harder to control what is on & when…but I still find a way. I’d be much happier with NO TV in the house at all, and have in fact begun to implement the “no-TV-during-the-day” so that I can avoid any problems.

    It is just so much harder living in a house divided. Dad wants one thing & mom wants another! Even when pointing out the Godly aspect of everything I feel like I’m constantly harping at everyone because of the differences in values. I just pray that God softens dad’s heart and reveals the truths I have already discovered.

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  30. Nicole,

    My family lives in Brazil, South America. We are educators and church planters. In our 24 years of married life we have never had television unless used for purposes of watching an occasional video.

    Never once have we regretted this choice that we made as a newly-wed couple. Our children LOVE to read, don’t get their heads full of garbage via “the tube” and are in no way anti-social. They are incredibly creative kids. We have no idea where we would fit TV into our lives, anyway. There is so much other better stuff to do.

    Hope you try it.

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  31. I am in total agreement with this. I have a 10 year old as well and had to block Disney on our TV due to these reasons. Unfortunately she then found the shows on Netflix. I am now going to have to probably get rid of Netflix. The problem now is like another poster said, TV at grandma’s cousins, friends, etc. It’s impossible to get rid of all together. I am struggling a lot with having discussions with my DD about the culture we live in, what is acceptable to God, how sometimes when doing what is right is not popular and difficult with friends, etc. Sigh…

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  32. Thank you so much for this blog! I was beginning to think all those ungodly messages were my imagination. I believe that “kid friendly” and “Christianly” are VERY different concepts! The challenge is this – how do I fill that “space”? ie what would they watch or do if not TV, because so many children’s shows are unggodly, but what shows can they watch that edify God?

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    1. Hello! Our children like to watch shows like Andy Griffith, 19 Kids and Counting, and Little House on the Prairie. They also really like The Way of the Master! I allow most preschool programming into our home. 🙂

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  33. My husband and I use things we don’t like in kids’ shows as a chance to teach them. If we don’t like what a character does, we will talk to our daughters about it. We don’t turn a blind eye to what’s on TV. Like it or not, what’s going on in the real world is so much worse. Teens aren’t just having boyfriends. Teens are having babies and don’t know who the dads are. If we decide TV is so bad that it has to be off limits, then we can’t prepare our daughters for what they’ll see in the world.

    Almost every show has things in it that not all parents will be okay with. You mentioned your kids liking Little House on the Prairie. Nellie’s behavior is almost always bad, and she rarely gets punished for it. She sometimes comes out ahead for it. That’s worse than a lot of modern shows where the kids usually have consequences of some sort for their misbehavior. We talk to our daughters about how, even though Nellie sometimes gets what she wants when she’s mean, it still not nice of her, and we talk about how her behavior makes other people feel. We even use Mrs. Oleson as a talking point. She’s a wicked wife sometimes, so mean to her husband and has no respect for him. We’ll talk to our girls about how the Olesons should mutually respect and be kind to each other, but she’s not.

    19 Kids is a chance to talk about how people can misrepresent themselves, and that you see isn’t always what you get.

    Andy Griffith had girls defying their fathers, and even had Ellie run for town council. I’m surprised that show is fine for you, even though it was very progressive and, in many ways, very progressive for the era. And I Love Lucy! Wow! Talk about wife disobeying their masters! You do know Lucy really ran the household, right?

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