In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety…
1 Timothy 2:9
After my husband and I were married, our girls began to dance competitively. I really had no clue what we were getting into at that point, I had danced competitively as a child and really enjoyed it. The costumes were so immodest, and while they somewhat bothered me, they really bothered my husband. Over time, we both became convicted over allowing our daughters to dress in such a way, even if it was on stage. When our middle daughter was seven, we pulled them out of their secular dance school once and for all.
We still dressed immodestly for the most part unfortunately. The Lord was slowly working on my heart however. It is truly amazing how the Lord works. My conscience began working in overdrive while shopping for clothing, and I didn’t even really understand why! I began to purchase one piece or tankini bathing suits for my daughters and myself instead of bikinis. I bought long shorts instead of short shorts. I made sure that our necklines were not low cut for the first time ever. This wasn’t something that the church taught, but I just knew in my heart that dressing modestly was pleasing to my God. When we dressed immodestly, we were bringing attention to ourselves instead of to our Lord.
I desperately wanted to raise my children in God’s truth. My greatest prayer was that my children not fall away from the faith. I began to look at families who seemed to get it right. Families who had adult children who were still serving the Lord. Most of this searching was accomplished via the internet and through books. During this time frame, I read A Love That Multiplies by Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar.
The Duggar’s were one of the families that seemed to get it right. At the back of the book, there was a resource section which included modest dress stores. Cato was listed as a place to purchase denim skirts. I had thought about wearing skirts for some time, and decided to give it a shot. There was a Cato next to a Hobby Lobby that I shopped at all of the time. The next time I went to Hobby Lobby, I shopped at Cato as well and purchased a knee length denim skirt.
I remember the first time that I wore it. I was actually nervous, which is laughable to me now! It was just something that people around me didn’t wear, and I was still worried about what other people thought. I actually loved wearing that skirt, and quickly went back to purchase more! I felt the same trepidation the first time I wore an ankle length denim skirt. Surprisingly, I liked these even more! I do love patterned skirts made of different fabrics, but for me denim is a must while homeschooling small children because it is so durable. I can easily get up and down from the floor without worrying about a rip or tear. My daughters saw me wearing these and asked to begin wearing skirts as well. And the rest is history.
Why skirts? Aren’t pants just as modest? I will be answering that question next in the 4th installment of this series.