Our family follows a few other modesty guidelines as well. I’m sharing them with you below!
Guidelines we use while choosing tops.
We pretty much buy any type of top, as long as our midriff is covered. How do we make a low cut shirt modest? We wear undershirts! By wearing an undershirt most of the time, this problem is solved with tops. No more worrying about flashing someone while picking my baby up off of the floor! By adding a tank worn backwards under most of my existing shirts, they are so much more modest.
How did you decide what length of skirt (or shorts) is modest?
And you shall make them linen trousers to cover their nakedness; from the loins even unto the thighs they shall reach:
Take the millstones, and grind meal: uncover thy locks, make bare the leg, uncover the thigh, pass over the rivers.
Thy nakedness shall be uncovered, yea, thy shame shall be seen: I will take vengeance, and I will not meet thee as a man.
This verses tell me that a good guideline for determining skirt length is whether or not our thighs are covered. We use this standard in choosing skirts and at times shorts. Sometimes my younger daughters where skirts that are shorter than knee length, and I make sure they wear leggings underneath in these scenarios.
Again, this is a good guideline to follow as a general rule. At times I do allow my daughters to wear clothing that does not cover their thigh!
What about other scenarios?
My daughters are dancers, and during dance class they wear the same attire as everyone else. (Which is a leotard and tights.) They attend a Christian dance school.
I allow my daughters to take gymnastics classes from time to time. In fact, my eleven year old was once a level 8 competitive gymnast. I don’t mind their legs being uncovered at all since this is important due to safety concerns with equipment.
I don’t really worry about modesty with my babies. I do not put them in bikinis, or let their little tummies show however. Onesies can be adorable and cool in the summer months. Also, crawling can be difficult in a skirt or dress! Once my babies begin enter toddlerhood, I usually try to dress them more like my older daughters.
We feel like it is important to make sure our underwear straps and lines are covered.
We wear swimwear that is much more modest than most, but I’m a little more relaxed with our clothing choices while swimming.
What about the boys in your family?
We like for our boys to keep their shirts on at all times. This includes while swimming.
I recently picked up a little book at a church we’ve been visiting. It is called, Dressed to Kill; Thinking Biblically About Modest & Immodest Clothing by Robert G. Spinney. It is a quick read with some great points! Here is a small excerpt:
To be sure, Christians can handle the subject of immodest clothing in a clumsy, unbiblical, and grace-denying fashion. That’s a problem. But surely ignoring the subject is not the solution: by doing this, we imply there is no such thing as inappropriate clothing. God’s people cannot afford to ignore this issue. Why not? Because Christians who think unbiblically about this issue don’t naturally gravitate toward more modest clothing. As is true with other aspects of living the Christian life, we never “drift forward.” Holiness and spiritual maturity must be pursued (Hebrews 12:14). That pursuit of godliness should be marked by diligence (2 Peter 1:10, 3:14). Our mind’s default settings are not godly: it is the renewing of our minds that produces spiritual transformation(Romans 12:2).
Sometimes Christians dismiss the issue of modest clothing as trivial. It’s not. After all, it was God who noticed the first clothing ever invented, judged it inadequate, and intervened to replace it with apparel of His own making (Genesis 3:7).
If you have any other questions concerning how we choose to dress, please just let me know!