I’m fairly new to blogging. I really never had much of a desire to blog, but I felt the Lord gently prompting me in this direction recently. I’ve always loved reading blogs written by mothers of large families. They are so encouraging to me, since my husband and I have a semi-large family (six children) at the moment.
During the past month, I’ve noticed something. There are an abundance of Christian bloggers who either have a large family, or a large family mindset. In amongst these websites, I sometimes stumble onto “Christian” pages where parents of large families are pretty much ridiculed. These bloggers feel “judged” by these large families. They bemoan the fact that large families “think they are more godly than smaller families,” and “they collect children to show off their godliness.”
Large families are by no means more godly than small families. In any way, shape, or form. Scripturally, we see Sarah, who had one child. Elizabeth had one child. These women were amazing, strong, women of God. Their faith in our Lord is spoken of to this day.
My plan is not to collect children. I do however wish to follow scripture wholeheartedly. Sola scriptura is a foundational doctrinal position that I hold to. It simply means “by scripture alone.” My life will be guided by scripture alone. If the Word of God says that children are a blessing, I believe it and will trust God with that area of my life.
Many parents who allow the Lord to plan their families end up with only a few children. Some are not meant to give birth biologically. Many godly families find themselves in this position. This does not mean that they are any less godly than the mother who gives birth almost once a year. Our Creator has different plans for each of us. Everything in heaven and earth is His! My husband and I have decided to let God make the choice regarding our family size instead of taking the matter into our own, unknowledgeable hands.
Yours, O Lord, is the greatness,
The power and the glory,
The victory and the majesty;
For all that is in heaven and in earth is Yours;
Yours is the kingdom, O Lord,
And You are exalted as head over all.
1 Chronicles 29:11
It is such a blessing to connect with like minded families on the internet. Unfortunately, there aren’t many families who feel the same convictions as we do in our physical area. To those of you who perceive judgment, please realize that is not my purpose. My purpose is to encourage other families who are walking the same path. Large families are not a dime a dozen, and sometimes the only godly encouragement we see is from the computer screen staring back at us.
Therefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also you do.
1 Thessalonians 5:11
The judgment that you might feel while online is what I perceive every. single. day. when out in public with my family. No matter what your family size looks like, if you are wholeheartedly following the Lord, then He is being glorified through you!