Modesty and Jesus. Does He Really Care About What You Wear?

Modesty and Jesus.  These are two words that we normally do not use in the same sentence.  Jesus really doesn’t care about what we wear, right?  Are outward appearances really that important?

First a little background concerning who we are in Christ…

Once we were totally lost in sin, without any hope.  Now as Christian ladies, we are new creatures!  How amazing is that!

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

2 Corinthians 5:17

Not only are we new creatures, but we no longer belong to ourselves.  While some may balk at this statement, it is true.  You are no longer your own.

For you are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

1 Corinthians 6:20

We are now new creatures that do not belong to ourselves.  We completely and absolutely belong to God.  We are to glorify God in our body (which can include what is physically on our body) and spirit.  On top of that, Jesus is always with us.

Teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”

Matthew 28:20

He is with us when we are walking the beach in our bikinis.  He is with us when we put on that top with the plunging neckline to go to our husband’s work banquet.  He is with us as we walk the aisles of the grocery store in our skinny jeans.

This is something that we normally do not think about.  We like to envision Jesus sitting cozily in our hearts.  But what if He was looking at us face to face.  Would we be embarrassed, or ashamed, by our apparel?  Would our apparel detract from Him?

If Jesus were physically walking beside us, would others look at Him? Or would they be tempted to gaze at our immodest clothing?  I for one would want all attention off of myself.  If our clothing could tempt people away from Christ, then a change is in order.  After all, we are Jesus’ ambassadors!

We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us.

2 Corinthians 5:20

Before we put on our bikinis, revealing tops, short skirts, and skinny jeans let’s keep in mind…

We are new creatures. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

We no longer belong to ourselves. (1 Corinthians 6:20)

Jesus is with us always. (Matthew 28:20)

We are His ambassadors! (2 Corinthians 5:20)

18 thoughts on “Modesty and Jesus. Does He Really Care About What You Wear?

  1. Helene says:

    That’s a great way to think about it. I try to emphasize to my girls that being modest is all about NOT calling attention to ourselves but allowing others to see God in us. Now, I’ll add that wonderful metaphor of walking around with Jesus…Love it!

  2. Jenifer @ Not Quite Mom of the Year says:

    I have found it really difficult to teach my girls about modesty. I want them to understand that dressing modestly is more than just something they have to do because I tell them to. I want them to want to make the proper choices on their own. I know they struggle because their friends at school have a different standard than I do…even their friends from church seem to have different ideas! Glad I found your post via Making Your Home Sing Monday.

  3. Faith says:

    I completely agree, Nicole. And modesty doesn’t depend on where one lives, as you hear some women say. Men are the same everywhere, whether in NYC, LA, or Grand Rapids. Seeing skin brings about lust in them, even if they don’t find the woman’s face to be particularly attractive.

    The idea of covering our shoulders, knees and cleavage is really not that strict of a standard. Muslim women and Hasidic Jewish women feel these parts and more should be covered whenever in public; why is it that we Christian women, who claim Jesus as our God and Savior, feel it doesn’t call for all that? I love that challenge: If Jesus were walking next to me, would others be focused on Him or distracted by what I’m wearing?

    • Nicole says:

      Honestly, I do not always cover my shoulders or knees. I’ve asked my husband about this and he has let me know that he doesn’t see a problem with it, and I haven’t seen evidence requiring it in scripture. I think that your standards are WONDERFUL however, and I do notice that each year my standards tighten up a bit. Sanctification is an ongoing process. 🙂

      Thank you so much for sharing!

  4. Trisha says:

    I agree 100%
    For a young man’s perspective on true beauty check out Blimey Cow’s “Ten Ways to Get the Right Guy to Like You”. I think all young girls can be encouraged by this

  5. Nannette and the Sweetheart says:

    I admit I am encouraged with the swing back to a more modest lifestyle. I do agree Jesus cares about what we wear…as a former pastor’s wife I remember having to have a discussion with some of our teenage girl’s in the choir that I did not want to see cleavage on the platform! Seriously! I didn’t think I should HAVE to have that discussion! I would think their parents wouldn’t let them come to church with their bosoms exposed for all the church to see…But we do live in a different day. On a funny note…one time my dear Sweetheart was addressing the choir years ago and said he didn’t want to see any “thongs” on the platform…well he was from the old school and he thought thongs were flip-flops! But of course everyone else thought thongs were, well, thongs! They couldn’t believe their pastor, of all people, was addressing the subject of not wearing thongs on the platform of the church, lol. I quickly corrected him, much to his embarrassment. 🙂 Great post!!

  6. Hannah J @ Dreaming of Perfect says:

    Loved this. Personally, I don’t like to show any cleavage, anything above the knee, anything too form-fitting, or too much under my arms(some tank-tops show too much under arms revealing a bit of the breast). But, I don’t think my standards are that strict. The point I like to make with people is: “If Jesus came back today, would you be ashamed wearing that?”

  7. Linda says:

    I appreciate this post Nicole. The whole modesty discussion often centers around the message we are sending to men, and weaknesses/sin nature in men. You’ve touched on something at the core of this discussion – who we are as women in Christ. In everything we do, say, think, we should be thinking on pleasing Him, regardless of what others (men and women) around us think and do.
    Thank you!

  8. Steph says:

    I think He does care what we wear as well. As Christian women, we need to be setting an example to others showing that we are different than the world. If we dress & act like the majority of society does today, how are we being light?!

    My oldest daughter will be 5 this fall and we have decided to let her take a praise ballet/tap class that a studio created for homeschoolers. Dance attire is required, which I am ok with, but I still have modesty standards that we will adhere to. Do you, or anyone reading this have any recommendations on places to find “modest dance wear?” Thank you!!

  9. Lori says:

    Thank you for sharing our thoughts. I think if we thought about walking with Christ in the physical realm, we’d probably make some different choices re; our clothing.

  10. Quinn says:

    Whereas dressing more modest is a great idea, I wonder if floor length skirts are necessary. As a mom, I wonder how you can keep up with active children in long skirts. There is also the question of what to wear if your daughters want to ride bikes or participate in sports. And what happens when you go swimming? Not trying to criticize, but for some activities long skirts are impractical. Do you wear pants for these activities or do you choose not to participate?

    • Nicole says:

      Hey Quinn, as a whole, I adore long skirts and have no problem whatsoever moving in them. As long as they are made of a durable material I can get up and down off of the floor with my little ones with ease. There are some activities that are better suited for pants, like riding bikes and gymnastics, and I have absolutely no problem with myself or my children wearing pants for these activities. (Gymnastics for them, not for me, ha!) As far as swimming goes, we wear more than a one piece, but not a full on dress by any means (Two of my daughters wear a one piece with shorts, and my other daughter wears a short swim skirt. I wear capri exercise leggings under a swim skirt). Blessings!

    • Trish says:

      I’ve always been a tomboy. For athletic activities like riding bikes, horses and playing ball, I always just wore a denim skirt that was full enough to allow me to run. I was used to this and never had any problem with it. I don’t always wear ankle length skirts, my standard is below the knee. For swimming I wear an at least knee length swim dress or skirt with spandex exercise leggings underneath. Swim dresses can be expensive, so I just buy exercise clothes that are made of stretchy, swim suit like material on clearance at walmart. Or check out the various sellers on that make modest swimwear. If there are any activities that require pants, I would choose not to participate. But I’ve never found anything that I can’t do in a skirt. I even used to snowboard in a skirt (with layers of sweatpants underneath). I’m not as into athletics now that I’m a mom, but I still wear denim skirts for my everyday work clothes. As long as the skirt is not straight or tight, I have no problem keeping up with my children and tackling any chore. I hope this helps.

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