My word for the year is “intentional,” and today I would love to talk about being intentional with our time. This is something that moms can always improve on, isn’t it? I for one am absolutely great at wasting time. Slowly but surely the Lord has shown me a few strategies and resources that I can use to improve my time management skills.
But first, what are some time stealers that we encounter daily? For me, I am tempted to remain in bed a little too long, sometimes I forget to get a load of laundry in the wash before we begin our daily schoolwork, I tend to not be the greatest at planning meals, our chores aren’t scheduled, and sometimes I can get lost in social media. This leads to a dirty home, whiny children, and a tired momma! This week I made a step in the right direction and deactivated my facebook account.
Ooh, was this difficult. But the Lord was in it, and I would like to encourage you to listen to the Lord in the little things! While I share photos on Facebook, my main purpose there has been to be “salt and light” for Christ. Every once in awhile this tends to lead to controversy, which was the case in late December. Some other things about Facebook had been bothering me as well, such as unsolicited ads that were almost vulgar in content, and the gossip, bragging, and boasting that is par for the course. One third of divorces site Facebook as a cause. I decided to not post anything new for almost a week, to see where the Lord might be leading me. At the end of this time, although I felt a small voice telling me to go, I didn’t really sense much direction so I began posting again. About one week later I posted something that was not in the least bit controversial, and a small conflict ensued. It was something silly, but the Lord used it to open my eyes to the fact that I needed to get off of this site. This verse was brought to my mind:
All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful; all things are lawful for me, but not all things edify. – 1 Corinthians 10:23
Now I would like to share a way how the Lord confirmed this for me. When I announced that I was leaving Facebook and shared my email address in case anyone wanted to stay in contact with me, a friend whom I hadn’t seen in forever quipped that maybe we will see each other someday in the local store. Guess who I ran into the very next day, in the store she mentioned? That sweet friend also let me know that she thought I was too kind (if there is such a thing) in my FB postings, which was such an encouragement to me. Although it wasn’t much, I felt that the Lord was letting me know that He doesn’t need Facebook to keep me in contact with people. Isn’t He amazing?
Now what am I going to do with all of this extra time on my hands? (Just kidding…sort of). I’ve pulled out some of my old time management books that are excellent resources for moms. I highly recommend these books!
“Do you feel time is slipping through your fingers? Are you looking for something to bring structure into your home? Do you struggle with getting it all done? Delve in and join Steve and Teri as your life is transformed from chaos to peace!”
“In Large Family Logistics, Kim outlines practical solutions she has learned to effectively manage a busy household. This how-to manual is filled with step-by-step procedures, easy-to- understand organizational advice, and a myriad of tips and hints for managing a bustling home with greater efficiency in a way that honors God and builds up family relationships.
Sensible and straightforward, Kim tackles the nitty-gritty, day-to-day challenges moms face and also offers sound counsel on how to plan and accomplish long-term domestic goals. An invaluable home management resource that will equip busy moms to get beyond survival mode and thrive!”
On a side note, as mothers, sometimes we are told that our time should be spent only with our children, and that keeping a clean house doesn’t really matter. For example, have you ever heard the rhyme, “so quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep, I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep” ? I used to have this mindset, and my house was a mess! I had forgotten that my home was a ministry for my husband and older children as well, and I have since determined that keeping my home “clean enough” is very important for the rest of my family. Of course, I fail at this almost daily, but keeping the house enjoyable for our families should be a priority as well.
I also am finding the time to read two other books, that I am really enjoying! I usually do not have much time for books outside of homeschooling.
Ladies, I’m only about 50 pages into this book, but so far it is incredible. By nature, my will does not align with Gods, but my deepest desire is for my spirit and soul to conform to His.
I love the idea of simple, godly living, and the only type of fiction I enjoy reading is either Historical Christian fiction or Amish Fiction. My 13-year-old daughter let me borrow this book from her, and I’m really enjoying it so far. As a bonus, it is about an Englisher (non-Amish) woman who desires to convert to the Amish faith. (A topic that I find very intriguing.)
I used to use Facebook to keep up with my favorite blogs too. Now I’m subscribing to the blogs instead, which isn’t too difficult of a change. While there are many blogs that I truly enjoy, I’m sticking to the ones that have good content without much advertising and giveaways. Some of my favorites include Generation Cedar, In the Nursery of the Nation, Large Families on Purpose, Abiding Woman, Fresh Modesty, and First Comes Love by Meghan Carver.
Finally, what is the most important thing that we can spend our time on?
Relationships. First and foremost our relationship with the Lord, and then our relationship with others (especially family). While it can be so easy to put these relationships last, they should be first.
Some questions that I’ve recently asked myself:
Am I spending time with the Lord when I first wake up, either through Bible study or prayer?
Am I spending time in God’s Word daily?
Am I spending time in prayer and God’s Word with my children daily?
Am I putting things (such as the computer) before my family? (ouch)
Am I intentionally spending individual time with each of my children?
Am I intentionally giving my husband the attention that he deserves?
As much as I hate to admit it, sometimes the answers to these questions are a big, fat NO. I need to remember that the things of this world will pass away. The only things that are eternal on this earth are God’s Word and people. That is where we should be spending the majority of our time.
Our time here is short. While there are many “good” things in this world, my prayer is that I will spend my time on “the excellent.” I don’t want to waste my time on good things if I could be doing something better for God’s kingdom! About three years ago, I made a commitment to the Lord. This commitment was to follow His way to the best of my ability. To not concern myself with my own “freedom,” but to seek His way, the “excellent” way, in all things. This commitment is slowly beginning to infiltrate my time management as well, praise God. For example, while social media is a “time stealer,” the Lord also revealed some “impurities” with Facebook in general that could hinder my relationship with Him. This can be true in our choice of friendships and media as well. Why spend our time on impure or mindless things, when we could be meditating on Him instead?
How about you? Do you struggle with time management like I do?
Possibly linking to:
Growing Home, Tending the Home Tuesdays, Raising Homemakers, Deep Roots At Home, Raising Arrows, A Wise Woman Builds Her Home ,Walking Redeemed, A Proverbs 31 Wife, The Modest Mom, A Mama’s Story, Mom’s the Word , Raising Mighty Arrows, Hearts For Home, Time Warp Wife, Graced Simplicity