Why I Write About Modesty

Every once and awhile, someone asks me why I write about modesty.  Or they might say, “Isn’t there something else that you can write about that would better further the kingdom of God?”  While there are many topics that would take precedence over modesty in order of importance, I believe that God has called me to write about this specifically.  The following are a few reasons as to why sharing my heart about modesty is important.

1.  At one time, I was quite the immodest dresser.  God pulled me out of that pit and showed me my error through His Word and the lives of others.  I honestly didn’t know that immodesty was a problem that I needed to deal with until I had daughters of my own.  My findings regarding the fact that the Lord loves us deeply as daughters, and that He wants us to dress modestly as a form of protection, has encouraged me to share with those who are on the same path that I used to be on.

2.  Modesty is commanded in God’s Word.  1 Timothy 2:9 says, “Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control…”  This isn’t something that we can simply decide to ignore.

3.  Modesty is a form of worship.  You might not believe me, but it truly is.  In 1 Timothy, women are commanded to “likewise” adorn themselves with modesty, as men are to “lift up holy hands.”  The lifting up of hands is a form of worship, and modesty is too. 

4.  Our culture is actively immodest as far as clothing is concerned.  If we lived a few hundred years ago, all women dressed modestly, whether they were believers or not.  Now, it is in style to dress immodestly.  It is so very important to share God’s truth with this culture!

5.  Since our culture as a whole is immodest, there are not many role models that exhibit modesty.  While I certainly do not consider myself to be a role model, I hope that if I share about modesty, other Christian ladies might not feel alone as they seek to be obedient to God’s Word in this matter.

While modesty is a teaching that we should take very seriously, women most likely will apply this to their lives differently.  While studying my Bible today, I came across Romans 14.  While Paul is speaking about liberties that we have as Christians, he says that, “The kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit…Let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another. (Romans 14:17, 19 NKJV)  We can take the words, “eating and drinking,” and replace them with “skirts and pants,” or “make up and jewelry.”  Let’s be sure that we do not allow disagreements about such things take our eyes off of what the kingdom of God truly is…righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.

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24 thoughts on “Why I Write About Modesty

  1. Diana says:

    I’m thrilled that you’re writing on the subject of modesty – it needs to get out there! Modesty is a lost art in our culture – and unfortunately, even oftentimes within the Christian culture. I’m glad you’ve taken on the job!! 🙂

  2. Candy says:

    You did an excellent job of sharing your heart, along with the appropriate scriptures. So often this subject is shoved down the throat of others in such a way that the delivery is as offensive as the immodesty and no one wins.
    Blessings to you as you faithfully and lovingly share what God has placed on your heart.

  3. Toni says:

    Hi I’m visiting from The Art of Home-making Mondays. Thank you for taking on this very needy area of our lives. If there ever was a subject that needs to be discussed this one is it. It’s really a shame that it has to be addressed at all, but that is a result of our modern society; We are more interested in fashion than purity. As far as being asked why you don’t write about other things – I once heard you can’t teach algebra to folks than don’t know their ABCs.
    Great post! Have a great day!

  4. erinblegen says:

    I too think this is a great subject to bring and and get people thinking about. I too was a reckless and wild teen and am so glad to have made it through that time unscathed and now be able to change my way of dress to show respect to God. Not that I wear skirts every day or anything like that- I”m definitely a jeans and t-shirt type of girl- but it makes me think twice about wearing anything inappropriate. Like many things, it’s just training our minds into a new way of thinking that eventually just becomes second nature 🙂

    Thanks so much for sharing this,


  5. Donna says:

    I am so glad you are writing about modesty! I came to wearing dresses and skirts later in life actually only 5 years ago and I am 52. But God had been dealing with me for years on this issue and I just couldn’t figure out a way to do it on our farm. But God in his gentle mercy helped me and put people like you and other blogs to show me it could be done. I must say it was a big struggle for me. I struggled at my motives (did I just want to look like a Christian so others would see that I was a Christian and if that were true did they only thing I was a Christian BECAUSE I was wearing a dress.) I have tried to go back to pants, but it just doesn’t feel right. I do obey my husband when it comes to splitting wood or hauling manure out of the barn, I wear pants. He just doesn’t think it is practical to wear a skirt doing those chores. I have a grown daughter and little granddaughters and wish I had come to this sooner. It is always a blessing serving our savior even in small ways. Thanks again.

  6. Nathana says:

    I agree that this topic needs to be talked about more! We were shocked at the “dress-code” when we moved from the Midwest to Phoenix, AZ for a youth ministry job. No one bats an eye at booty shorts, see-through shirts, or tops that show the belly button. It is a discussion we are trying to brave with our youth group girls, even though it is so counter-cultural here. I don’t think girls realize how the way they dress can be a stumbling block to guys who struggle with visual temptation all around them. I have heard many a man confess that going to church should be a safe place away from bikinis and billboards, but the way many girls dress, it too can be a place that tempts the eyes to wander. It breaks my heart. Thank you for sharing this topic!

  7. Growing In His Grace says:

    What a blessing to have your site as a resource for so many. The best part is hearing about your transformation. I think people can identify more with someone who has been on both sides of the issue. So glad you are choosing obedience, and sharing with us with kind and gentle words.

  8. Jessica Roldan says:

    “…I certainly do not consider myself to be a role model…” Yes, you are! I remember reading your posts on why you started dressing modestly a year ago, or maybe more. You inspired me! As a girl who used to wear pants and now wears skirts and dresses only, I can relate to the story you shared. And now that I wear skirts and dresses only, it can get pretty lonely. And depressing. And frustrating. That’s why it’s always so nice to receive encouragement from someone else who probably knows what I’m going through, and yet keeps moving forward!

    I love your new blog! It looks great! I’m even a little envious, ha, ha as I’m still trying to figure things out for my own blog. 🙂

    • Nicole says:

      Hi, Jessica! Thank you so much for the encouragement! It definitely can get lonely. I’m totally humbled by your comment. Thank you! BTW, I love your blog and YouTube channel. I think we use the same theme!😊

      • Jessica Roldan says:

        Yes, I did notice we use the same theme, ha, ha! When I noticed you had started following by blog and YouTube channel, I was like, “Wow, I can’t believe NICOLE from Children are a Blessing is following me–this is so cool!” I think we have a lot in common, which is very comforting and encouraging. As I’m reading your posts, I’m thinking that everything looks so professional! Keep up the great work!

      • Nicole says:

        Oh goodness, I’m just a person with a ton of flaws!😊 Thanks so much again for your encouragement. You are doing a tremendous job sharing your faith!

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