I know most people will probably not agree with this post. I apologize in advance if it steps on some toes.
For many years now, I’ve done my best to work through spiritual growing pains which were a result from growing up in a feminist household. I thought I had everything worked out.
But, while being “submissive,” I seemed to make a lot of people mad at me. I thought it was just fine to share about spiritual things, and I’ve done so quite often. I’ve never particularly geared any of this sharing towards men, and so I thought what I was doing was right. I didn’t understand what I was doing wrong.
Earlier this year a church member (who was a woman) told me that I was a stumbling block to her. I also lost a friend a few weeks ago, and the conflict started when I shared a spiritual perspective to a struggle she was going through.
I found that I was becoming sad. I was floundering, not understanding my purpose. I truly wanted to walk in God’s will for my life, and yet my fruit told me that I very possibly was not.
And so, I went back to the basics. I prayed that God show me through His Word what my problem was.
And boy, did He answer. I’m married to a great guy. He is responsible, steadfast, trustworthy, quiet, and introverted. I’m quiet and introverted, but am also more of a visionary. I cannot tell you the number of times I’ve said or shared things that he probably never would have. I’ve stepped out of his protection and put myself out there, and opened myself to hurt. Most of the things I’ve shared were not my place to share, and I’m just now realizing that.
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
1 Corinthians 11:3
When Satan tempted Eve in the garden, I don’t think it was a mistake that he didn’t go to Adam first. By our nature, we ladies are softer and possess a sort of vulnerability that most guys simply don’t have. This is instinctual, and causes us to be good mothers.
This vulnerability didn’t end with Eve. This feminine trait causes women to be much more susceptible to false teaching. Most fortune tellers, card readers, and witches are women. Women are also more intuitive then men, and often appear to be more “spiritual.” But our “spirituality” can easily be twisted into something dark, or even simple subtle false doctrine can easily make our way into our message, simply because it is out of God’s plan for us to be spiritual teachers.
In Titus 2 older women are not admonished to teach the younger women church doctrine. And did you know that Proverbs 31 woman was praised for her character and diligence? She is not commended for her quiet times, prayer life, or woman’s ministry. Wow! This was a shocker for me! When women simply live a quiet, resourceful, and holy life they are offering a beautiful sacrifice to God.
Until very recently, while I thought it was wrong for women to teach men spiritual things, I thought it was fine for women to teach women Bible studies about doctrine. Now, I truly believe that it is not our place, and putting ourselves out there as teachers takes us away from the protection God designed for us as ladies. There are several woman ministry leaders who have divorced recently, and I don’t want to ever become that statistic. Even if their ministries were sound, they stepped out of God’s will by teaching material they were never meant to teach.
While I’m sure many women have been blessed by these ministries, God can (and will!) bless His followers possibly even more so if they are taught in the manner which He has ordained.
For now, I can’t even begin to tell ya the amount of peace that has come since I’ve discovered more about my role as a wife and decided to step back into it.
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