Focus on the Lovely

The world around us is full of anger and strife. There is rarely a time that I look at my phone without a sensationalized headline working it’s way past my eye.

We see it when we hop in the car and drive to the store. We see it…well, everywhere really.

While living in a world where most people live for the flesh, we can’t really expect anything different. And honestly, our bodies were probably not designed to know about each and every problem that our world faces. But with the world literally at our fingertips since we live in the Information Age, this is now our reality.

We can easily become bogged down with feelings of despair if we concentrate on such things. Over the years I’ve realized that my time can be much better spent concentrating on my family instead, while working to make my home a haven from the unrest of the world.

When my family steps into our home, I hope they feel uplifted. Our children need a place where they are free to explore and be themselves. Our husbands need a refuge from the ungodly messages they are bombarded with during the day while they are out of the home. And most importantly, I pray that God is glorified through concentrating on the lovely, instead of the bad. After all, He makes everything beautiful.

Some simple ways to accomplish these things include:

  • Read the Bible with your children.
  • Hang meaningful wall art.
  • Bring in cut flowers if possible.
  • Diffuse essential oils.
  • Play soft worship music.
  • Try to eliminate clutter.
  • Provide soft blankets to be used while cuddling on the couch.
  • Read aloud to your children.
  • Make a special beverage for all to enjoy.
  • Grow a garden together.
  • Look for opportunities to make new family traditions.
  • Slow the pace of your home.
  • Learn to sew and make a few handmade items for your family to enjoy.
  • Homeschool. What better way to protect young minds and hearts from the world?
  • Wear a smile.

As wives and mothers, our main focus should be our families. Praying for the cares of the world and being an advocate for change is a good thing. However, if we find ourselves becoming extremely burdened, it might be best to give it to The Lord and then continue to serve our family’s needs with a smile on our face. My husband is always quick to tell me that he feels at rest only if I do. I’m sure our children feel the same way!

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Phillipians 4:4-8

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15 thoughts on “Focus on the Lovely

  1. Robinality says:

    Nicole, your words are much needed today. Our homes, built on the foundation of God’s love, are central to our families growth. I spend time praying over our home, the boundaries, and each room seeking God’s protection and favor. A verse I’ve always shared with younger moms,1 Timothy 5:8
    “If anyone does not provide for their own family, and especially for a member of their household, they have denied the faith. They are worse than those who have no faith.” Thank you for sharing!

  2. Theresa Boedeker says:

    Living with the world at our fingertips can be full of stress and guilt. You are right, we need to focus on what we can change and give the rest to God. Making our homes a place of rest makes them more attractive to our families, but also to us. We all need a place to rest.

    • Nicole says:

      Yes! It is difficult for me to stay uninformed about current events, but I am a less-stressed wife and mom when I do. Thanks for sharing a piece of encouragement, Theresa.

  3. Laura says:

    I love this so much. These may seem like simple things to do, but I’ve found I need to be intentional about making my home welcoming and uplifting for everyone. Pinning! 🙂

  4. Amy says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this, it was such an encouragement! It brought tears to my eyes, because that is the same verse came to my mind just today! God is so good!

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