Preparing to be a Help Meet

Only a few short years ago, I wasn’t even sure what the term “help meet” meant. I cringe when I think of the haughty look I would give my husband on a fairly regular basis. Didn’t he realize that I was his equal?


The Lord has been so gracious to show me very plainly through scripture that no, I am not my husband’s equal. I was created for him, and not the other way around. At the same time, I can rest in the fact that I am a beloved daughter of the one true King, and He is most glorified when I honor Him in my day to day life. As a wife, this includes my role as a help meet to my husband.

I wish I had been better prepared for this task. I’m a true believer that preparation goes a long way. If I had been better prepared I most likely would be a better wife now. Yet, I’m so thankful for grace. Ladies, having a gentle and humble spirit has really helped me learn how to be a better wife. I am not perfect, but I am changing and growing. My husband has told me lately that he has seen a change in me, and he has thanked me for being a good wife. Praise God!

Oh, but if I would have learned earlier what I know now. I wish I would have been taught that…

God’s ways are always best. The Biblical picture of marriage is beautiful, and I shouldn’t fight against the imagery of my husband being the head, and me being the hands and feet.

When we honor our husbands even when it feels hard, we are honoring God.

It feels simply wonderful to be under my husband’s protection. As the weaker vessel, I need this protection. I am much more emotional and not as logical as my husband. He sees things that I do not.

Being a submissive wife does not equal being a door mat. It takes a lot of strength to be quiet when all you feel like doing is spouting your contrary opinion. Believe me, I know.

My husband sees the feminine traits of gentleness and having a quiet spirit as lovely. I shouldn’t try to act bossy to gain his approval.

Seeking out godly, older, Titus 2 women who have excelled at being excellent wives for advice is the way to go. I’ve had several divorced ladies offer unwanted marital advice on several occasions, and almost without fail their “advice” was self-seeking. True love is not self-seeking, and always considers the good of others above oneself.

Whew! I still have so much to learn about becoming a godly wife. If the Lord plans for any of my daughters to marry, I pray that they will be better prepared than I was.

Do you believe you were well prepared to become a help meet?

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10 thoughts on “Preparing to be a Help Meet

  1. apronstringsotherthings says:

    Thank you for sharing this lovely post with us, Nicole – after more than 30 years of marriage I’m still learning how to be a better help meet to my husband as well! We can always trust scripture to guide our steps even if they seem out of sync with others around. Blessings to you and your family!
    (stopping by via Simple Homestead Blog Hop today)

  2. The Pramshed says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this post with us, it’s interested to hear your point of view on being a wife, and I’m glad that you are happy. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  3. Sherry says:

    How awesome Nicole! I love the posts you have been sharing here at Home Sweet Home and I am so glad you found the party! I recently just celebrated my first ever Feast of Tabernacles (maybe next year I’ll feel brave enough to share.) and I also have this past year realized what it means to be a biblical “help meet” to my husband. It looks nothing like what is shown in the media today, but God has been showing me that I am to listen more and not comment so much and follow his lead. This does please God very much. Thank you so much for sharing these posts at Home Sweet Home!

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