Learning to be Content {with My Husband’s Income}

As a Christian, contentment is one of the keys to living a joyful and full life.  And yet, much too often I find myself always wanting more.

We are bombarded everyday with advertisements.  For me, the especially lovely things, such as the Pioneer Woman Slow Cooker, catch my eye.  On Instagram this week, I shared a photo of my new slow cooker.  Then another acquaintance shared a picture of The Pioneer Woman’s new mixer.  My first thought was, “Oh, I would really like that!” Something clicked in my head at that moment.  I realized that this is the mentality that has kept myself, and other women, stuck in the workplace at times.  I want to be fully available to serve my family, but sometimes I feel like I have to keep my Etsy shop open for us to stay afloat.  Now, there is nothing wrong with having an Etsy shop.  But if I am relying on the shop to fulfill my need for “extras,” then there might be.

The Proverbs 31 woman was frugal.  But at the same time, her family didn’t want for anything.  I cringed a bit this week when I added up my purchases.  Besides the slow cooker, I bought two dresses on Amazon, and several items from Mary & Martha.  I also placed an essential oil order.  Three of the oils were needful for health purposes in my opinion, but did I really need the Citrus Cream blend?  We are due to close on our home in Georgia in a few weeks, and I can tell that I’m slipping just a bit when it comes to pacing my purchases.  All of the items were good and lovely things, but they were not needful.

Once we become debt free besides our mortgage, I still want to keep the frugal mindset that I’ve had for the majority of this year.  Our money is a gift from God, and He wants us to be good stewards of it.  I believe with all of my heart that He has ordained our husbands to be the providers of our families, and He will equip us to be content with our husband’s income.  We have made a few drastic changes this year.  I’m driving a van with more miles on it than ever before, and we have downsized into a home under half the size of our last home, if you count the finished basement.  We shop at sales and consignment stores.  At the same time, right now we have two mortgages.  We have our children involved in too many extracurriculars, and our trip to the town that they are in is a 100 mile round trip (hello, gas money!)  I really need to reign in our spending until our house officially sells, and we have a very healthy savings account in place.

Being a keeper at home, and actually being present in the home, is so important ladies! It is our calling if we are a wife and/or mother.  Looking at what we have with a thankful heart is a big step in the right direction.  In most scenarios, we can rely on our husband’s income to support our needs.  God will meet our needs when we truly cling to Him, and repent of our discontentment.  This is a lesson that I’m still learning!

I recently made a bare-minimum budget, and realized that once our home in Georgia is officially sold, we can make it on under $3,000 per month if necessary.  We are a family of ten.  If we can do it, then anyone can. I hope to share more about why it is so important that we are keepers at home at a later time.  This is part of God’s perfect design for the family, and we should embrace it with a content heart.

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11 thoughts on “Learning to be Content {with My Husband’s Income}

  1. Stacy Dick says:

    Great post that I needed. I have the same battle. I see pictures of things that others have and become discontent. It saddens me. I have a healthy family who is perfect how could I be discontented? I pray for myself and will pray for you also.

  2. Diana says:

    Thank you for this post! Especially pertinent for me at the moment, as we are really struggling financially. I need those good reminders. 🙂

  3. Michele Morin says:

    Thanks for this shared wisdom. The “things” our hearts crave are really a distraction from what’s truly valuable and worthy of our pursuit, and that becomes even more apparent at this time of year.

  4. Sara says:

    I understand the challenge well. I insist that I live debt free. So I don’t go on vacations, have new clothes, fancy things, eat out every week, or even own a pair of tennis shoes. I have become very skillful at reusing/repurposing many, many things. I have become use to not having some things (like replacing my tennis shoes when they wore out) to maintain the debt free living.

    Some day, I would truly like to be comfortable and not worry about having heat in the winter or how long a shower is.

    It’s not an easy journey being debt free, but it’s one I gladly choose. To me, it’s worth it. I don’t stress about a mortgage or a car payment or a credit card payment. If I don’t have the money & I can’t get zero percent & zero fee financing, I don’t get it.

    If you want to be debt free, go for it. Seriously, make it a family effort and do it. 🙂

  5. Sherry says:

    This is a very wise perspective. You are so right that He wants us to be good stewards! Thanks for sharing at Home Sweet Home!

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