Allowing My Husband to Lead Me

Tonight, I couldn’t help but think about what an amazing husband I have. We were driving over the lake near our home after 10 pm, and his alarm would be ringing at around 4:30. And yet, he decided to sacrifice his time and accompany me to our daughter’s late night rehearsal since he knew I would feel out of place at the large college campus in a strange town. I had willingly followed him here, but still have so much to learn about our new community.

The Lord so graciously prepared me for this when He put the desire for us to become debt free into my heart about one year ago. I knew drastic changes would need to be made. I knew a move would be possible.

When Rusty applied for his new job, he consulted me on every step of the way. I really had to rest in Jesus and put myself out of the picture when I told him to go for it if he felt led to. Once he officially received a job offer, I told him I wanted nothing to do with the decision. I knew he had our best interests at heart, and ready or not, it was time for an adventure!

While learning more about what it means to be a submissive wife, I’ve realized that by following my husband’s leadership, I’m painting a picture of the church following Jesus. After all, marriage is a picture of Christ and his bride, the church.

Our Messiah doesn’t follow the whims of the church. No, we are admonished to follow His example. Jesus and the church are not exactly on equal standing. After all, He is King of the Universe.

I think that too often we simply look at the world when determining what a marriage relationship should look like, instead of to Scripture. Scripturally speaking, the husband is head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the church. There is no such thing as “equal submission,” at least not in the sense that most equalitarian marriages convey.

This is a hard concept to grasp, to be sure! Oh, did my skin bristle when I read the passage about Sara calling Abraham “lord,” and how she was to be praised. Me call my husband lord? Never!

But by God’s Grace, I’ve recognized the beauty of His design. Just as we crave our husband’s love, they crave deep respect. When we give this to them, we are honoring God with our lives.

I am just beginning to walk out these concepts, and it is difficult for my flesh. But when I follow my husband wholeheartedly, good things happen. The covenant that we entered before God is honored, and we become more sanctified. What a wonderful thing!

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:

Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

1 Peter 3:1-6 (KJV)

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4 thoughts on “Allowing My Husband to Lead Me

  1. Liz Giertz says:

    Such a hard concept to share in today’s society. Praying God blesses your marriage, making it a beacon of hope for others! Merry Christmas!

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