Marriage can seem so hard sometimes. When God meshes two people into one this is bound to happen. Feelings get hurt, and our lines get crossed.
My husband and I have a pretty good relationship. I’m so thankful to the LORD for him! But even during the best of times, we sometimes have misunderstandings. Sometimes when we disagree about an issue I’m insistent that my way is the best way, even if it is not.
I forget that the LORD has so graciously given my husband to our family to be the leader and provider. And I also forget that a house divided will not stand.
I hate to say that lots of times I’m the dividing influence. My sin nature sometimes pulls me outside of the feminine role that the LORD called me to, and instead, I try to be the boss.
Satan likes when our houses are divided. He can slip in much easier this way. But praise God, there is a better way!
And if a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.
Ladies, we can be the peacemakers and glue in our families. Instead of division, we can help bring resolution. This involves coming to the end of ourselves and forgetting offenses. Being offended comes from a sense of pride. It’s hard to believe, but it’s true. I cringe when I think of the times when I’ve thought, “I can’t believe so-and-so talked to me that way. How dare they!” This is ugly sin through and through.
To combat division, we must remain humble. We must think of others before ourselves. Again, this can be so hard! And yes, I do fail at this sometimes. But when I think of our Savior as the picture of true humility, I can’t help but want to be like Him. We are walking like He walked when we pick up our cross and become humble.
When I pit myself against my husband I ask myself, “Do I want my house to stand or not?” I look at our children and think, “What example do I want them to see?” Last week I became annoyed at my husband for not putting our camper up for sale on my own timeline. How silly and trivial! Fast forward to today, and a few people are coming to look at it and all is well. My annoyance last week did nothing but stole time away from me. Time that I could have spent investing in my husband and children. Time that I could have spent growing closer to the LORD.
I’d like to encourage you to look at the big picture when it comes to your home. I so often forget the big picture, and sweat the small stuff. But the LORD is the author of our big picture, and He is for us. He wants our house to stand! And so do I. The enemy would like nothing more than to pull apart, to splinter, our beautiful marriage covenants, and he often uses our own weaknesses to divide our homes. I am going to try my best to choose joy instead of frustration, and unity instead of division when it comes to the relationship with my husband. This is God’s best for us.
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