Yesterday, we had a “family meeting.” The morning started with a lot of complaining and very little was being accomplished in terms of chores. I think the overcast sky did a number on almost everyone’s mood. So we all sat down for a talk.
During this talk I came to the realization that my own mood needed some work too. Ouch. Parenting is tough sometimes, y’all. It is much too easy to see the flaws in others while ignoring the same problems in ourselves. This was totally me yesterday.
I had to wonder how much of my bad attitude had rubbed off onto my children? I was so tired of dealing with a particular issue with a particular child over and over and over again. And yet, isn’t this what our Heavenly Father does with us? His grace washes over us time after time.
There is A Time to Praise
Mamas, it is so easy for us to pick out the wrong things our children are doing and overlook the good. Yes, teaching and training our children in the ways of the LORD is a must, and sometimes this involves discipline! But at the same time, they also need to hear our praise and encouragement. A saying has stuck with me that we should praise our children ten times more often than we correct them. I fail at this. But our children need to hear that they are loved by us and an Almighty God on a regular basis. They need to know that their talents were given to them to be used by the LORD to further His kingdom. Gentle and consistent praise can provide the guidance our children need to fully serve Him.
Our Need for Grace
We all need grace. Unending grace. Because you know what? We are humans with sin and numerous failings. I’m so thankful for the grace that the LORD freely bestows upon us. But far too often I’m not quick enough to share this same grace with my own children.
I’m not talking about giving our children grace to keep on sinning or doing whatever they want. (God’s Grace isn’t about that either.) But grace to pick them up when they fall. Grace to give them a soft place to land. Grace to share the Gospel with them time and time again.
The LORD hasn’t left us to figure out this parenting thing alone. He has given us the ultimate example of what a good parent is in His Word. We have His example to follow! We must rest in Him. We must abide in Him. During our family Bible time, we have been reading through the gospel of John. We’ve been learning a whole lot about how Yeshua (Jesus) is the bread of life. He was the manna in the desert. He is the sustainer of our souls. Our souls are sustained by staying in the Word, mamas. This is how we abide in Him.
And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.
Let’s continue to abide in Him while we figure out this parenting thing. His grace is sufficient even when ours is not. At the same time, we need to remember that both praise and grace should always be present in our homes. Our children are in desperate need of both, just as we are.
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