Humility: A Wife and Mother’s Secret Weapon

You know, sometimes I think I have this “mom” thing all figured out. My oldest daughter is eighteen, and I have eight children. In many respects I can say, “Been there, done that.” I’ve seen a lot throughout the years.

But in full disclosure, without the Lord I don’t know what I’m doing. Each child is individual and unique. Each day I encounter new parenting challenges. This applies to my role as a wife, too. As my husband and I grow older, there are new ways I can serve him better. Our lives are constantly growing and changing.

Unfortunately pride sneaks in my life when I least expect it. I think things are going well, and then bam…I’m thrown for a loop. I’m once again humbled, and I realize I don’t have everything figured out.

If I had been walking in humility in the first place, this wouldn’t have happened. Humility realizes that I am nothing without my Savior. Humility realizes that I can do nothing in my own strength. Humility doesn’t think that I have mothering, homeschooling, or being a wife figured out. Humility doesn’t boast in my children’s accomplishments, because somehow, deep down inside, they validate myself.

Ouch, right? Walking in humility goes against each and every grain of our sin nature, but it the secret weapon that will build our families up, and not tear them down. Walking in humility requires renewing my mind daily by washing it in the Word. This doesn’t come easy to me.

Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering.

Colossians 3:12 KJV

Once we realize that we are nothing, the Lord has more room to fill our cups with His truth. His truth is all that matters, ladies. Our own opinions and motives are as garbage. Without Him, we are nothing. Once we become believers, our lives are no longer our own. We are slaves to God. HalleluYah! This is a good and glorious thing!

I pray that through my nothingness, He reveals His holiness. I pray that I will be an example for my children to do the same.

A man’s pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit.

Proverbs 29:23 KJV

Read one of my newest posts, Dealing with Feminine Pride Through Head Covering, here.

12 thoughts on “Humility: A Wife and Mother’s Secret Weapon

  1. Rebecca Hastings says:

    I fluctuate so much on this humility idea.

    On one side I lean toward “I’ve got this figured out, I can do it on my own, I am wonder woman!”

    On the other side I lean toward “I can’t do anything right. I have no idea what I’m doing. I’m a lousy ______ (wife, mother, friend, Christian).”

    I’m so grateful for God’s grace as I learn to live in the middle space.

    • Jessica Roldan says:

      Me, too, Rebecca!
      I loved this post and your comment in reply to it! What you said about yourself is so typical of me, too: I tend toward either extreme, but I’m learning to “live in the middle space.”

    • Nicole Crone says:

      Hello Rebecca! I think the key is to continually look to the Lord to work through us. We must realize that He is the power behind anything good that we do. It is not fun to tell ourselves “I can’t do anything right. I have no idea what I’m doing. I’m a lousy____(wife, mother, friend, Christian).”, but at the same time…I think this is true. The Bible says “there is no one righteous, no not one,” and our own attempts of “being good” are as filthy rags. Once we truly come to the end of ourselves and humble ourselves before the Lord, HIS power and goodness can work through us to bring forth “every good work.” Does this make sense? Blessings!

  2. Jana Carlson says:

    I need this reminder constantly! It ties in with what the Lord has been impressing on my heart from 2 Chronicles 20 this week: “We don’t know what to do, but our eyes are on You.” When we can accept and admit that we need His help, the door is open for Him to show His greatness in our lives, and it’s a magnificent thing to behold!

  3. Angela Johnson says:

    I enjoyed reading this because it was like me reading about myself. Pride is definitely one of my struggles. To the world we look like we have it all figured out, but God knows the truth, and He knows that we are trying to do it on our own by our own powers and our own control. We just need to give it all to Him, and hold nothing back. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

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