Over the course of the past year, I have been awakened from my sleep almost every night. My sweet toddler likes to twist and turn by my side, and our two preschoolers slept in our room as well. Some nights it truly felt like a circus!
Drained of energy, serving my family sometimes seemed downright hard. In my moments of insomnia I sometimes would wonder what it would be like if my husband and I switched places. If I went to work each day while he stayed home.
These thoughts didn’t last long because I fully realize that God has ordained my place in the home. It is a busy, but beautiful life. I wouldn’t trade it. But these niggling ideas from time to time have made me realize that our culture has tried so very hard to teach us that serving an employer is somehow more important than serving our families.
Who Would We Rather Serve?
Believe it or not, we are continually offering service to those around us. Whether it be for a paycheck or not, we are offering our expertise to either our employers or to our families.
Our knowledge and time is valuable, mamas. More importantly, the love we can give our family can never be replaced. A child care provider or even extended family members cannot replace the love a mother can give to her child throughout the day. Mothers and their children are bonded to each other even before birth. Our service to our families is special and ordained by God. In the workplace, we are replaceable. Choosing to spend our energies serving our families should be considered a wonderful blessing. Our rather “ordinary life” is filled with God’s grace and goodness.
Our Families are Our Neighbors
We oftentimes hear through Scripture that our Father desires us to love Himself and our neighbors. I think we mistakenly think that this means that mothers must reach outside of the home to others to fulfill this command. But dear mama, I would like to contend that our husband and our children are our closest neighbor, and that they need our love most of all!
When we spend our days walking along side of our families, we are loving them by fulfilling their needs. In Mark 12:31, the Messiah admonishes us to “love our neighbor as ourself.” The word “neighbor” is translated from the Greek word “plesion.” This word means, “any other person, and where two are concerned, the other.” So essentially, we are told to love every person that we are with as much, or more so, than ourselves. This applies very much so to our husbands and children. When we serve them, we can be confident that we are fulfilling God’s call for our lives, and we need not look outside of our home to do so.
Serving Our Families is Best
1 Timothy 5:8 says, “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” While in context I believe this verse is talking about men in the family providing for related widows, there is a gem here for us mamas as well. We are called to provide for our own families. As mothers, we can provide nourishment, love, a listening ear, a teaching heart, and so much more. God has set up the family unit this way.
Scripture says that those who do not provide for their own household has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. We should really seek God’s heart before sending our children to a childcare provider other than ourselves. When we set aside our households and instead work for an outside source, are we fulfilling God’s plan for our lives?
Take heart, mamas. God is for you, not against you. He is for your sweet families. He will never leave you or forsake you. May we all continue to seek God’s best for our families as we ask Him to redeem our homes.