A Small Disappointment

Well, our power went out a few hours ago and I’m awake, trying to make sure we have a good plan to get everyone ready for violin lessons this morning. A minor inconvenience at most, really. I thought while up I’d share a small disappointment we recently encountered with y’all.

When we moved back to Georgia, I began looking for violin lessons for four of my children. They had been taking fiddle lessons in South Carolina, and I wanted them to continue.

I found a lovely band/choir program for Christian homeschoolers not too far from home. At first, we were only interested in violin, but two of my children decided they would really like to try choir as well after gentle prodding from the directors on several occasions.

At first, I was a bit hesitant because our faith is messianic in nature, and I knew many choirs focused on Christmas music during the fall. But when I discovered the fall performance took place on November 8th, my fears were relieved. I figured this date was far too early for Christmas music.

However, at the parent meeting, I learned that the children would be singing at the Toys for Tots Kick-Off in downtown Atlanta. I sent a message asking for my children to be excused. A few days later, I received a call from the director stating that the entire fall program was comprised of Christmas music, and this is how the children learned to read music. If my children did not participate in these sessions they would not be allowed to participate in choir during the spring.

While the director was super nice and professional about this, I was a bit dumbfounded and my children were disappointed. Not quite knowing what else to do, I pulled them from the choir program.

Now, I know in the scheme of life this is a little thing. Our family does things differently than most people in the greater American Christian communty. And yet my heart ached for my children, who received their first tiny taste of persecution. (Now, I do hesitant to call this actual “persecution.” It probably relates more to poor advertisement of the choir program.)

Mamas, doing the right thing for our families can be hard. We often feel crazy and countercultural when doing what we believe is the most God-honoring thing. This principle applies to so much…public school, holidays, music, movies, and social media are just a few other examples of things we must navigate for God’s glory.

I would like to encourage you to do what you believe the Lord is calling you to do, no matter what the circumstance may be. Yes, it’s been hard for my children to not participate in choir when their heart was set on it, but this situation has given us ample opportunities to discuss why my husband and I believe the way we do, which has been a good thing.

I hope that your weekend is lovely, ladies. If you’d like to read more about how we generally view holidays, you can find that information here.

I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.

Galatians 2:20

4 thoughts on “A Small Disappointment

  1. a says:

    We are also Messianic in nature, and when we switched our homeschooling calendars to block off biblically appointed feasts, we questioned–what do we do with Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter? For us, for now, although our focus is on God-appointed times, we participate in the others in the same way Jesus seemed to observe the tradition of his time–Hanukkah. We stand on Romans 14:5-6, which is also why we observe other traditions of men like birthdays and anniversaries. I am curious how you view non-Santa Christmas songs and hymns. Do you sing them in the same way you would sing a secular birthday song or church hymn, or are they off limits like the holiday? We have some similar mindsets and I’m always interested in how others view and participate in various events.

    • Nicole says:

      We believe holidays such as Christmas and Easter are a mixture of the holy and profane, and so we avoid those entirely. We believe that in context, Romans 14:5-6 is speaking about fasting days which historically Jews at the time observed. Since these weekly fasting days were not necessarily scriptural, Paul said that it was up to the individual to decide what to do. Fasting unto the Lord is not inherintly wrong. This fits into context of some eating (clean) meat or only vegetables. We do sometimes incorporate God-honoring music about Christ’s birth into our Feast of Tabernacles celebration. Thank you for stopping by!

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