As a wife, I haven’t always been submissive and obedient. This is definitely something I still struggle with at times! (If you happened to click on the above link, you’ll be happy to know I now handle the grocery shopping and my husband’s laundry!)
But the Father has graciously helped me along in this area. As believers aren’t we called to deny ourselves and follow His ways?
Over time, my husband’s and my wants have seemed to mesh together as we walk this life of two becoming one. But what happens when our wants are different?
As wives, we are called to concede and support our husbands. This is easier said than done, especially since both of us are prone to selfishness. We all are, unless we are walking in our Messiah.
A recent example of this taking place in my own life happened not too long ago. We are aiming to pay off our mortgage quickly, but I wanted to possibly use some of the proceeds from our previous home sale to go ahead and purchase a piece of land.
While we looked at land, my husband let me know that he would rather just put all of the equity funds on the house.
While it wasn’t easy, I didn’t argue and we did as he requested.
Then, I asked if we could pull some of our investments out to go ahead and pay our mortgage off in full.
Again, that was a no.
I decided to bite my tongue and quietly concede to my husband’s wisdom. But believe me, it would have been much easier to continue giving him a piece of my mind.
But that wouldn’t have been loving. That would have caused strife.
That would have not been God’s will for me.
As women, I think it is so easy for us to prod and push our husband’s along instead of following their leadership.
But when we set our own wants aside, God is glorified.
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
Instead of asking what can he do for me, I should wonder what I can do for him.
Sometimes this is just plain hard. Since I’m at the end of my pregnancy, my husband has been doing so much for me lately. I have been blessed, and wish I could do more for him.
In times of physical hardship, we can still bless our husbands by offering them support and a listening ear. We can let them know just how much they mean to us and how thankful we are for them.
We can choose not to argue. There are many blunders I can share in this department, ha! Needless to say, I’ve learned to bite my tongue for the most part, and show my husband grace like my Heavenly Father has given me.
With God’s help, we can die to self and put our husband’s wants before our own.