As women, we often equate romance with flowers, candy, and jewelry. I know I sure used to! Let me tell you a little story.
After the birth of our babies, I used to think that my husband had to buy me flowers. After our fifth child, I held a grudge since he didn’t. Like that was the right thing to do. After sulking about this quietly for a couple of months, I let him know how I felt.
He honestly had no idea I felt this way and told me to please remind him that flowers were important to me if we had another baby. Well, I did. He bought me flowers with a cheerful heart, and I felt like such a fool.
My husband is a loyal, amazing man, and here I was reminding him to buy me flowers while he was doing all that he could to take care of me and our little one in the hospital. Can you say selfish?
My idea of romance was totally off. I had let the culture dictate what I deemed “romantic” and was wrong for doing so.
My idea of romance has now drastically changed. To me, romance is:
- Being loyal and committed.
- Being my spiritual leader.
- Showing up everyday for our family.
- Working hard and providing for our family.
- Taking the time to talk to me.
- Listening to what I have to say.
- Caring for me when I am sick.
- Spending time with me.
- Loving me unconditionally.
Ladies, if your husband does these things, then you have a gem.
I’m not asking for flowers this time around. I’m just grateful for our marriage and the man my husband is.
He is kind and giving. He writes me love notes on receipts when we go out to eat. At a recent training meeting at his job, everyone was asked who was the most influential teacher in their lives. You know what? He said me, because I homeschool our children.
I’ve decided to cherish these things, and not always look for more. Ladies, we give both ourselves and our husbands a gift when we release expectations, and are simply grateful for the relationship we have.
And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.