Leaving Decisions Up to Our Husbands

As wives and mothers, we encounter all types of situations that involve decisions. Some are easy, and some are not.

I’m thankful to have a husband who asks for my input while making decisions. I like to be involved whenever possible.

But sometimes, I can’t seem to make up my mind. Then decision making seems burdensome.

I have been burdened about a big financial decision lately. On paper, the decision seems simple. But in my heart, it’s anything but that.

While thinking and praying about it today, I realized something important.

I do not have to be involved in this decision if I don’t want to be.

Goodness, what relief I felt! I am not the head of the home, and I can walk away from this decision. No matter what the outcome, I can trust my husband to do what he feels is best for our family.

Granted, it’s easier for me to do this knowing that I have a godly husband. If my husband made rash, uninformed decisions, walking away would be difficult.

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I know for me, I already have so many things going on in my brain on a daily basis. Homemaking, homeschooling, gardening, my faith. When I leave a decision up to my husband, my mental health definitely benefits.

We were not meant to stress over decisions that our husbands can handle. This is a blessing from the Lord.

We can release the self-imposed burden we have placed on ourselves and allow our husbands to lead. This is freeing!

We can take a step back from the feminist world we live in, knowing that we don’t have to be involved in each and every decision.

Last year, I realized that the chat group in our cabin neighborhood was stressing me out. It took me a few weeks, but I finally realized that I didn’t have to be involved. Honestly, it should be the men involved in big neighborhood decisions, anyway.

Again, this was so freeing!

If you are feeling stressed about a decision, I would like to encourage you to relinquish control and let your husband take the lead. This is what we should be doing in the first place.

This definitely goes against our sin nature. Women usually want to be in control, unless we are walking in the Spirit. I know this is definitely true for me. I’m a first born who likes to take charge!

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But we can do this with God’s help. Our husbands were naturally created to lead, and we were naturally created to follow.

I’m thankful that the Lord created us this way. Submitting to His created gender roles will bring many blessings to our marriages.

As an added bonus, when we submit and respect our husbands, it is a picture of the assembly of believers submitting to Yeshua (Jesus).

“Also submit yourselves to one another out of reverence for Messiah— wives to your own husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as Messiah also is head of His community—Himself the Savior of the body. But as Messiah’s community is submitted to Messiah, so also the wives to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives just as Messiah also loved His community and gave Himself up for her to make her holy, having cleansed her by immersion in the word. Messiah did this so that He might present to Himself His glorious community—not having stain or wrinkle or any such thing, but in order that she might be holy and blameless. In the same way, husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it—just as Messiah also does His community, because we are members of His body. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is great—but I am talking about Messiah and His community. In any case, let each of you love his own wife as himself, and let the wife respect her husband.”

Ephesians 5:21‭-‬33 TLV

Let’s walk out this beautiful picture, ladies. Blessings!

4 thoughts on “Leaving Decisions Up to Our Husbands

  1. Diana says:

    Yes, absolutely. It’s almost always a struggle, but when I do release decisions to my husband, there’s a lot of peace – and I have noticed that God usually blesses those decisions much more than when I power through with my own opinion. Not popular, but so true! 🙂

  2. Susanne says:

    Mainstream Churches sadly shy away from the teaching of Biblical submission of a wife to her husband in deference to feminist and because (like all other difficult or demanding morality) it is seen as too challenging and will “put people off” and leave Churches empty.

    As a result this teaching has too often become the preserve of those who seek to pervert and fetishise it.

    A husband and father is the head of the family and holds authority over all those within it. As a Christian wife it is your duty to submit to your husband, to help and support him but also ultimately to obey.

    But it is the duty of the husband to use his leadership for the spiritual and materiel benefit of his family and a whole – not for selfishness or in exploitation.

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