Good morning, ladies! I almost decided to not stop in today. Almost. I have quite a lot on my plate, most of which I put on myself. Today my husband and son are helping my mother-in-law move out of our cabin, and I’ve decided to bring the children along. I believe most of her small things are packed an gone already, and I thought it would be a good time to get some cleaning and redecorating done.
But first, I would love to spend a few minutes with you! The Father has blessed us with every good and perfect gift, and I believe figuring out the gift of womanhood is of upmost importance.
In Chapter 21, Elisabeth begins by speaking about wedding rings, and a bit of historical information regarding the early church fathers. This section did not interest me so much, as I really like to stick to Scripture itself when learning about topics such as marriage. It doesn’t matter if you wear a ring or not. What matters is that once married, you are in covenant with your husband and this should be taken seriously.
Elisabeth rightfully asserts that “saying yes to happiness often means saying no to yourself.” When we say “yes” to marriage, we say “no” to many other things. From our perspective, our husband’s needs and wants should matter more than our own. If we were in circumstances other than marriage, we would likely encounter this same predicament in our lives in other areas. We will face limitations.
Elisabeth writes, “It is a naive sort of feminism that insists that women prove their ability to do all the things that men do. This is a distortion and a travesty. Men have never sought to prove that they can do all the things women do. Why subject women to purely masculine criteria? Woman can and ought to be judged by the criteria of femininity, for it is in their femininity that they participate in the human race. And femininity has its limitations. So has masculinity. That is what we’ve been talking about. To do this is not to do that. To be this is not to be that. To be a woman is not to be a man. To be married is not to be single – which may mean not to have a career. To marry this man is not to marry all the others. A choice is a limitaion.”
Let’s choose to be feminine, and to enjoy our femininity. It is a blessing and a gift to be created as women!
In the next chapter, Elisabeth briefly speaks about commitment, gratitude, and dependence. A sound basis for marriage is a commitment to each other, and gratitude and dependence on God.
Elisabeth writes, When they encounter trouble they know where to turn, for they know that they are still under the command of God, they are not forsaken. They know that they are insufficient in themselves, that human love breaks down, and that there is never a point at which they can say, “We’ve arrived,” and are not longer in need of grace. You know, I am sure, that your love is a gift. And if it is a gift you are grateful to the Giver. To acknowledge your gratitude to Him is also to acknowledge your dependence on Him, to acknowledge above all the authority of Christ. That is a good place to begin a marriage.”
We are insufficient in ourselves, and need God’s grace. Fully. Abundantly. We should always be grateful, always be dependent. The Lord rules over all, and we must be mindful of this in our marriages.
I hope that you have a lovely weekend, ladies. I’m off to pack our van with snacks and needful items like sanding blocks and nails. But first, I hope to work in a short low-impact workout on YouTube. I’m down four pounds, and hope to lose at least about 12 more.
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