When Contentment Feels Illusive as a Mother | Resting in Christ When Things Go Wrong

I’d like to say that I’ve discovered the secret to contentment. While I know that the answer is always resting in Christ, sometimes my flesh doesn’t remember.

It’s frustrating. I’ve been through this before. We’ve fought our way through $293,000 worth of debt, and discovered the joys of simplicity and contentment in the process.

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Practically speaking, I’ve discovered the contentment that stewarding our finances well can bring. And while it is amazing, not everything in our life falls into the financial category, does it?

For a homemaker like myself, finances are just a small part of the equation. The more important things that I must consider include my faith, my family, our health, and the running of my home. These are the items that have the greatest potential to bring me joy, or to disrupt my contentment.

This morning, my husband asked how I was doing. He does this pretty much every day. My answer today was “not so good.” Some days, I really struggle. I shared more about the issue I’m facing in a previous post, if you are interested in learning more.

I’d like to say that my head and my heart function in perfect unison, but they don’t. Neither do my flesh and my spirit. It is hard when your assumptions about motherhood are turned on their head.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Motherhood is a good and holy task. It is given to us by God, and is one of the most important things we can do with our lives. It is a calling that we should engage in with our whole hearts!

But it shouldn’t be our all in all. Only God can fill our needs when it comes to the deep down longing we experience.

We long for fullness…for wholeness…we long for contentment.

And none of our earthly relationships can fill that void. Not one! Unfortunately, we will be sorely disappointed if we expect our husbands and children to bring us contentment.

Because while they are gifts given to us by God, they are human. They will let us down, just like our own imperfections will shine through at times.

So while I might think that a restored relationship, or a new storage building, or more garden beds might fill the contentment “hole” in my heart…they won’t.

Only Christ can do that.

If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is our life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory.

Colossians 3:1‭-‬4 NKJV

I should be resting in Him, knowing that my life is hidden with Christ in God. This is reason to celebrate, and should bring me much joy and contentment!

Friends, I’ve also been thinking about the great importance of meditating on God’s Word lately. Now, I’m not talking about some kind of mystical meditation. I’m talking about soaking in Scripture like our lives depended on it. Because they do.

When I’m not focusing on Scripture, my mindset has the opportunity to go all wrong. Likely, it will. Wouldn’t it be lovely if when we encountered a difficult situation, automatically Scripture would come to mind? This would help us through! This would bring the illusive contentment we all seek.

I will meditate on Your precepts, And contemplate Your ways.

Psalms 119:15 NKJV

Because knowing that God is with us always will bring us through the difficult moments of motherhood. We are never alone, friends!

This morning, if I would have been focusing on Scripture instead of on a broken relationship, my answer would likely have been different when he asked, “How are you doing?”

My answer would reflect the intense joy and hope found in Christ. And that would have made all of the difference.

My heart would have been at peace. It would be content.

I’d like to encourage you to join me in meditating on God’s Word today. If you are hurting, I am right there with you. I’m so glad to know The One who can bring us true peace, joy, and contentment. He is rooting for both of us, and His Word is there for us when we need it. Which is always!

I hope your day is blessed, friends. If you are interested in learning more about becoming a Member of Redeeming Home, please click here. I’ve really enjoyed putting together the Member Newsletter with bonus content together for you each week. Articles for tomorrow’s newsletter include God is Love, Faithful in the Little Things, Creating a Memory Box, Responding to Our Families in Love, Homestead Happenings, and Resources for Homemakers. If you decide to become a member, you will have access to all previous newsletters as well.

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