Becoming Brave with the Help of God and My Husband


This morning we took my five year old daughter to the eye doctor. To be honest, I was kind of dreading it. She is absolutely amazing and I adore being her mama. But she is also a child with big feelings. Eye drops usually involve quite the reaction. While I understand her hesitancy about the situation, it can be difficult to literally hold her down while the staff attempts to quickly put the drops in her eyes.

But today was different. She looked me in the eye and with an unwavering voice she said…

“Mama, I’m going to be brave this time.”

And she was. My big girl was so brave! While sitting on my lap, she took the eye drops without making a peep. We celebrated afterward, complete with a new giraffe toy and lunch at Cracker Barrel.

On the way home, I thought about how well she did. I also thought about my reactions to the not-so-fun things in life. I might not kick and scream, but I have been known to pout or cry when things don’t go my way.

I haven’t always been brave. And I know I always haven’t had to be. God is merciful, and He has carried me through many situations that felt almost too hard to bear. The Lord has always been with me through the trials of life, and He has given me a husband who is always there as well.

But when I face a hard time, I want my first reaction to be, “I can do this,” instead of “I want to run and hide!” Do you know what I mean? The past two years have been tough for me. I know that I’m not alone in feeling this way. But I’m tired of feeling sick and tired each time I turn on the news or am reminded of a couple of broken relationships that I would love to be mended.

The Lord wants us to be brave, friends. When we pull back in fear in the face of adversity we are doubting that God is with us and is for us.

Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”

Deuteronomy 31:6

As servants of God, we are to be strong and courageous! We can know that the Lord always goes with us if we are walking in His will.

He will not leave me or forsake me. And the same goes for you.

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While fear can be a natural human reaction, there is no reason for me to live in it. I can choose to be brave.

And as a married woman, I can turn to my husband to help me when I’m feeling fearful. Believe me when I say this happens quite often. I’m so glad to have a leader and protector in my life. God often uses Him to turn me on the right path when I’m sad or afraid.

Don’t be afraid to fully trust your husband, or to take his advice. The Lord placed him in the leadership role within marriage for a reason. Men often are able to look at a situation without the emotional lens that women usually look through.

While in the depths of despair, my husband has helped me to see my grief as valid. But he has also pointed out that I shouldn’t continue walking in it. Walking through grief can be draining, and affects all of the relationships around us. I say this as someone who was once widowed with three small kiddos and then was sued by extended family for rights to my children.

I didn’t feel brave then. But by the grace of God I got through it.

I don’t exactly feel brave now. But I know I can be strong and courageous with the Lord’s help.

I think this is the key to life, friends. We need the Lord’s help for everything. Even with bravery.

I’m so glad that my big girl did good today, and I hope I can say the same about myself the next time I face a challenge.

Thank you so much for stopping by my blog today. I hope you leave knowing that the Lord loves you more than you could ever imagine.


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