Be Wise When Choosing a Husband


On Father’s Day weekend, my husband and I went out for a little while. Of course, I asked him what he wanted to do.

His response? “I want to do whatever you want to do, because seeing you happy is what makes me the most happy.”

Oh my goodness, friends. I can hardly believe that I have such a loving husband. He really does personify what Scripture says about loving your wife.

I’d like to say that I always have the same response that he does. Unfortunately, I don’t. I definitely have more selfish bones in my body than he does.

And yes, I did insist that he picked where we ate. We also visited a sporting goods store to look for shirts for him!

I spent a lot of time that evening reflecting on how blessed I am to have him. I know firsthand how important it is to choose wisely when it comes to husbands.

My first husband passed away when he was 22 years old. We dated off and on throughout high school, and we only married because I was expecting our first child.

Friends, that marriage was rough! We both were immature and selfish. He cared more about partying with his friends than his family, and he left a couple of months before passing away.

When my current husband entered my life, I was more cautious. But he seemed like a great guy who really did care about me and my little ones. He’d rather be with us than with anyone else, and he started to take us to his aunt’s church.

I realized that these were the important things! I didn’t care so much about how much money he made (which is something I did care about in my first marriage). I just wanted to be married to a man who loved and cherished me and my kids.

Ephesians 5:25-29: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church…

Young ladies, it is so important to be wise when it comes to choosing a husband. He is who will lead your family for the rest of your lives. It’s important to find someone who loves the Lord, and who has the same values as you do.

If you see any red flags, know that you do not have to marry that person. You want to be married to someone who you trust very much. You need to know that wherever he leads, you will follow.

I will say that the grace the Lord has given to our marriage is huge. For example, we came from two very different faith backgrounds and over time He has melded us into one. We are in one accord on just about every topic you could think of now.

What grace! I’m so thankful for him.

Wisdom is something that should be sought in every aspect of life, especially when choosing a husband. May God give you grace to seek His best for your life.

Thank you so much for stopping by my blog today. I hope your day is blessed!


2 thoughts on “Be Wise When Choosing a Husband

  1. Victoriya says:

    Amen. So wise to seek the Lord and have His blessing and direction in this aspect of life! Praise God for the good husbands that are out there šŸ™‚

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