A peaceful home that is full of love, forbearance, and understanding is a lovely place to be. It is important that our children learn a lot about these important topics.
I know sometimes this can be tough. Just today, a couple of my children had a pretty big argument. As a mother, I know that this is just another time that I can point them back to Christ.
This doesn’t always come easy for me. A lot of times, it would be easier for me to lose my temper, too!
I wanted to share a short passage from a book I turn to from time to time for Biblical encouragement with you today. With God’s help, we can teach love and forbearance to our children. It is up to them to decide if they should take this teaching to heart.
“Love and forbearance make us considerate and understanding of others. ‘This is my commandment, That you love one another, as I have loved you’ (John 15:12). Does not Christ continually demonstrate His love and forbearance with us? We are slow to learn the lessons of life, and yet He continues to extend His love, reminding us to be patient when we feel like rushing ahead, and to keep our tongue when a hasty morsel was just on the tip. How considerate are we of our husbands when the garden is ready to plow the same evening there is a school board meeting? Do we wait patiently on breakfast while they are on the telephone?
A critical spirit does not contribute love to our homes. A critical spirit does not contribute love to our homes. A critical spirit finds fault with others, is suspicious of the motives and intentions of others and imagines offenses. It begins with simple things. ‘You never wash the dishes clean.’ ‘You took longer to wash the eggs so you wouldn’t have to run the sweeper.’ ‘You hid my book so I couldn’t read it tonight.’ We do not want our children to judge each other’s motives; that is for us to decide. We want them to pay attention to their own responses.
Sometimes silence, when we are wrongfully accused, is a sign of love and forbearance. ‘You don’t care for my feelings. You just please yourself.’ Proverbs 15:1 says, ‘A soft answer turneth away wrath.’ Soft answers are proper, but sometimes it is better to say nothing. It was said of Christ that ‘when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not.’ (1 Peter 2:23. Christ set an example of love and nonresistance that, if applied to our homes, will help us to function peacefully.”
-A Virtuous Woman pp. 201-202
These are all important topics to consider. Each day, I should ask myself, “Am I being patient? Do I have a critical spirit? Are my answers soft, and am I showing the love of God to my family?
To be honest, sometimes the answer is “no.” But over the years, I’ve realized that I can keep asking the Lord to refine me in these areas, and He is so kind to help me. When I seek Him, He doesn’t leave me to fend for myself.
He is there for you too, dear reader. Know and trust that He always wants to help you grow more like Him.
Thank you so much for stopping by today. Let’s remember to serve our home and family well!