His alarm sounded at 5:30 am this morning. My husband had to arrive at the parking lot near his office by 6:30. A table should be waiting for him outside, containing a test and face shield. No one else will be there. That’s the point. Unvaccinated, he has been deemed too much of a health concern to be around others. Thus the 6:30 testing time.
He is no longer allowed inside of his office, although he was given a religious accomodation. This has been hard on him, and on me. Today is the first day of this “new normal,” and it doesn’t feel right at all. It feels like he has been labeled “unclean”… and it hurts. (I am extremely grateful that my husband still has a job, but to be ostracized is difficult!)
My husband has immunity, just not the type they want. I’m sure many others are going through this right now. We have been praying, and seeking direction. As a wife, I’ve wondered what I can do to help him through this. It has been hard on him. As the primary breadwinner, he feels the need to provide for us, understandably. And now, it feels like his job hangs in a delicate balance.
What can I do to help?
First of all, I believe it is important to have a right relationship with God in order to support our husbands well. As a woman, am I seeking Him with a gentle and contrite spirit? I must admit sometimes I feel bitterness creeping in while contemplating our situation. There is no place for bitterness in our spiritual walk. It is like poison, strangling our relationship with the Lord.
When my husband feels stressed or on edge, he needs me to listen to him, and offer real solutions when I can. Ladies, I tend to be anxious myself, but now is not the time to put my own anxieties on him. Of course, my husband is aware of my needs and encourages me to talk about my feelings, but when he is worried about this situation, he needs reassurance. He needs my smile and to know that everything is going to be okay.
And it will be. We serve the Sovereign God of the Universe. He is still on His throne and is in control. That doesn’t mean that as people, we shouldn’t speak out about injustices in a kind and civil manner. We should. And as wives, we are called to support our men, always.
In a way, watching him walk through this has been wonderful for me. I have even more respect for my husband now. He stood up for his convictions in the midst of almost everybody else in his company complying, even when they didn’t want to. I’ve seen his integrity anew, and I am so very thankful for it.
Our husbands need our prayers. I will be praying for mine, plus all of the other families navigating these strange waters.
We must remember that God is our ultimate provider, and our provision comes from Him. It’s easy to credit our husband’s places of employment for their paychecks, but ultimately, our income comes from the Lord. When I remember this, I breathe a sigh of relief.
Our husbands need a peaceful home. Our homes are no place for strife, especially during times like these. Let’s do what we can to create a peaceful environment for them to come home to.
Our husbands need for us to prepare. An excellent wife will spend her husband’s money wisely, and prepare for an unknown future. It would be wise to take a closer look at our savings, frugal spending habits, and food stores during this time.
Our husbands need our support. We were created for this, ladies. We can do this!
Be encouraged today, and then go an encourage your husband. Stand up for truth. Be humble and kind, gentle and meek. Stand on God’s Word. These are all important things that I’m doing my best to take to heart right now.
Blessings to you and your families, ladies!
“The Lord (YHWH) bless you and keep you; The Lord (YHWH) make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The Lord (YHWH) lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace.”
Numbers 6:24-26 NKJV