Why We Should Become Stay At Home Wives and Mothers

I have been a stay at home wife and mother for twenty two years now. That seems like a long time, but it has gone by in a blink.

And I am happy. Really happy. There is nowhere on this earth that I would rather be than home with my family each day.

My days are filled with tasks that some might consider undesirable. I change a lot of diapers and clean bathrooms. Laundry is on my agenda pretty often. Really glamorous, right?

Over the years I’ve realized that while a lot of what I do is fairly basic and repetitive, there is no one on this earth that can care for my family the way I can. No one could love them the way I do.

The feminist agenda would like for us to believe that anyone can care for our homes and families. Anyone can swoop right in, and our families would do just fine.

Because of this train of thought, multitudes of women are miserable while working a job that could never compare to full time motherhood. We’ve been brainwashed to believe that a mother leaving her family is normal. But the truth is it simply is not.

Wives and mothers were made to nurture their families. All of the time. Once I realized that I could live out this life and it was a good thing, I stopped worrying so much about what the culture tried to tell me. It was lying. We were not created to assume authority, or to be loud and assertive. We were not made to fill the role of provider, which historically has been held by men.

I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.
1 Timothy 2:12-15

I wasn’t created to assume authority over a man or leave the safety of my home to work a job. I was created to be quiet, submissive, nurturing, faithful, loving, and holy while bearing children.

And no one can give my family what they need the way I can.

I’m definitely not perfect. But I know my children will remember that I was there for them when they were young instead of a paid caregiver. They won’t ever face the trauma of being separated from me when they were small, impressionable, and afraid.

We can find that the Bible talks about women staying at home, too.

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
Titus 2:3-5

The Scriptures teach that we should be busy at home. If we are busy at home, we will not have the time to leave and work an outside job. Some versions of the Bible translate “busy at home” as “keepers at home.” I love the way this sounds. We are to keep our houses well for the sake of the Lord and our family.

My husband knows that I am available if he needs me. Our home runs smoothly when I am at home. Again, I do not always do everything just right. Sometimes our home is a mess, or I do not complete all of the tasks that were on my agenda. But I know home is where I’m supposed to be.

The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Genesis 2:18

Yes, friends. We were made to be helpers. Not the ones in charge. And how could I help my husband if I wasn’t there?

Living this way has brought so much peace into our lives. Our house may be loud with a multitude of young children, but it is stable. Our children know what to expect, and they understand that their mother will be there.

Is there a greater gift that I can give my family? I don’t think so.

Knowing this makes me happy. It brings me joy.

And friends, if you have a husband and/or children, they need you too. The Lord will bless our service to our families! We might have to make some financial sacrifices to stay at home full time, but aren’t our families worth it?

They are. They are a thousand fold.

God’s love for me is not based on whether I stay at home with my family or not. But by searching the Scriptures and through prayer, I know that this is His will for me.

Let’s purpose to be there for our families at all times. This is an amazing way to spend our lives.